</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by wrngler:
I havn't posted in awhile. I hav a new job and I have been busy. I have been talkng with my WW almost everday. She calls just to chat and talk with me. It's funny how she wants to be my friend but not my wife. OM is taking all the tests and is going to join the military. I say good I hope they ship him off somewhere far. My WW is mad at him right now. Last night he called her his ex wife's name. I thought it was funny. When my WW comes home will she only be here until OM comes back from military. I will do everything I can with marriage counseling and building a better marriage but how will I ever be sure? That is what is scaring me right now. I have another problem. I met this other woman who is really nice and I'm not sure what to do. I want to work things out with my wife but If they don't then I will be losing both. I should have never started seeing this other woman but I was so lonely. I just wanted some company. I don't want to hurt her. I have to go out of town for three days for job training. I'm going to do some thinking. When it comes right down to it I just want my life back. any comments or suggestions?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Does this new woman in your life know that you are married and separated from your WW? If not then you are being dishonest and unfair with her. If this is the case, then you are now in an A of your own. The best thing you can do for this new woman and for yourself is to be honest with her and tell her that you are not ready to give up on your M and that to avoid any more misleading of her heart, it would be best to not see each other again.
If you are scared to be without a woman in your life then I'm afraid the you MAY have some serious co-dependency issues that you need to resolve before you are ready for a relationship with your WW or any other woman.
And as far as your WW is concerned, I would like to suggest to NOT be so available to your WW because she is using you to vent her frustrations with OM. Once she's vented she again is ready to resume her R with OM while you still wait for the A to blow apart. If you were only available say only half of the time, then she may reach the point where she'll have enough of OM and her love bank for him will close for good.
Before I go let me reiterate once more end your new R with OW NOW.