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Advice for a conflict avoider
#1042716 11/27/02 11:17 AM
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I definitely love to avoid conflict at any cost. Which is probably part of the problem in my marriage.

However, last night I went to Wal-Mart and thought, oh, no, what if I run into OW like I did before I knew she was OW? What should I say or do?

Thankfully, I didn't run into her but thought, Hey, it's time to quit avoiding. So, I would like to be a bit prepared for the time when it happens. I can't stay out of Wal-mart all my life?

Do I stand my ground and stay in the same aisle? Do I pretend I don't see her? Do I say anything? What if she says something to me? Stare at her? What?

Thanks for all your input. I know this isn't a crisis question but you guys have the best advice anywhere in the world!!!
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Re: Advice for a conflict avoider
#1042717 11/27/02 12:23 PM
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dazedblonde,

I am also a conflict avoider and this also landed me in trouble. IMHO, if you should bump in to the OP and make eye contact or whatever just shake your in disgust and move on.

This is such a tough question, but one I think we all need to consider so if it does happen we are prepared.
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#1042718 11/27/02 11:25 PM
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DB--hello again! Do you think that maybe--just maybe she feels the same? Or is the OP so brazen that she would flaunt her wayward behavior toward you? Pray first for wisdom. Look carefully at the posts and weed out what may not apply. Courage is another matter to consider...the courage to know how to respond should she show the slightest sign of remorse. She MAY even apologize to you--who knows. We were having a big discussion on forgiveness on another thread...(THEOPHILIS)maybe you could look at those crazy posts too.

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