I am confused. I need to understand so badly what the ow is providing for my h that I am not.
My h does not like, has never liked or wanted children. The ow is a former friend with a young son (3 3/4 yr old). The ow is single, the child was the result of another A which lasted 5 yrs. She got my h bu manipulation and lies about our R - but thats another thread! The A started in August. Dday was in September and we have had 3 periods of false recovery. He left me this time in mid November (just after his birthday) and then we started sf about 3/2 wks later. Since then he has increased contact with me, spends 2/3 nights a week with me and we go on dates several times a week. Basically, he spends as much time as possible with me or in our house. The ow does not know any of this and thinks he sleeps in seperate room to me. She does not know that we go out together.
At xmas, he was with me, ow went to family do that he baled out of sayinghe wanted to be alone and I was away. He bought ow a present, but as far as I am aware, he did not buy anything for her son. He has as little to do with the son as possible. He tends to go to ow house when son is about to go to bed or has gone to bed. He does go out with son and ow sometimes. Anyway, today, we went out together and had planned an evening intogether befoire he went to ow for late supper. H had a voicemail from ow saying that she wanted him to go home right away because son had jumped on icey lake and fallen through the ice - it was not deep but will have been cold and scary for ow and son. H did not want to go and carried on shopping with me. He rang her later and (I did not hear the conversation) he agreed to finish shopping when he could and go round and see her. We carried on shopping and did not rush back.
My question is this. Why would the ow be interested in a MM who is clearly not interested in her son? I do not have children, but surely you would want their happyness and would want a man interested in them, not one who does their best to avoid the daily necessity of contact. Why is she trying to hold onto him? I do not understand what he sees in her at all, but why would a mother want a man who is not interested in her child? Is she in the fog as well? I do not care for her, but I do still love her little boy and cannot undestand how she can be like this with a childs life.
