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To All: A quote from Private Lies
#1051914 01/20/03 11:42 AM
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My latest reading has taken me away from my Harley collection to Frank Pittman’s Private Lies, which comes highly recommended on this forum. Here is a paragraph that struck me as I read it this morning.

“When the excitement fades and the poetry becomes prosaic, or the inappropriateness becomes impractical, someone feels cheated or misled. Suddenly the magic is gone, and with no magic, the lights go on and all is revealed. Many people want the magic of romance more than they want to be married. You can’t have both-one is fleeting, the other forever. Some try to keep the magic alive by avoiding the mundane world of practical reality, and instead stir up startling and disorienting experiences to provide a picturesquely unusual setting for the increasingly mundane relationship. This may hold things together, but the cost is someone’s or everyone’s sanity.

(Frank Pittman, M.D., Private Lies, Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy, p. 93, W.W. Norton and Co., New York)

This sure sounds like a good definition of the fog and a good description of the how and why an A ends. Hopefully this will be the case.

<small>[ January 20, 2003, 10:55 AM: Message edited by: Luki ]</small>
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Re: To All: A quote from Private Lies
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Luki - keep reading, there are plenty of quotable quotes in Pittman's book.

For you others, it's on the heavy side and quite philosphical, but after SAA, it was the most influential work for me that I came across.

WAT

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