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I don't usually read Dear Abby but this one caught my eye today - Here is Dear Abby's response to the wife whose husband is cold to wife who ends her hot A: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">There is no such thinng as free love. What you are paying now is the "amusement tax" </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
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That letter was from a WW who had a two year affair and decided to break it off because she was feeling guilty and wanted to rebuild her M. Unfortunately for her, the OM's wife beat her to the punch and told her BH all about her A. Her H was obviously devastated, and left her, moving to another state. The WW has tried begging and pleading with her BH for forgiveness and a chance to make it up to him, but he wants nothing more to do with her. What is sad, is that she acknowledges that her BH was a good H and that the reason why she had her A was because she wanted some excitement, hence the Dear Abby reference to the 'amusement tax'.
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I always read Dear Ann and Dear Abby. Yesterday's article definitely got my attention and I'm sending Abby a note as a BS. That WW is paying her "amusement tax", however, often times the BS is the one paying his/her partner "amusement tax". The OWs who were involved with my FWH are not paying their taxes! Their A's have never been exposed and they will continue to amuse themselves with other married men instead of working on their marriages.
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I always read Dear Ann and Dear Abby. Yesterday's article definitely got my attention and I'm sending Abby a note as a BS. That WW is paying her "amusement tax", however, often times the BS is the one paying his/her partner "amusement tax". The OWs who were involved with my FWH are not paying their taxes! Their A's have never been exposed and they will continue to amuse themselves with other married men instead of working on their marriages.
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I think in most cases, everyone pays the tax. Even those who do chose to marry their OP. Those of us who do not pay any tax are those of us who were just "morally" bankrupt. Or were paying some other tax that got removed (e.g. physical abuse)
Sure, it's nice not to pay taxes (amusement or IRS), but I don't want to be poor (emotionally or financially) just to avoid taxes.
Note: "Morally" is the best word I could probably use, just the best one I could think of now. There's probably a different word I oculd use that isn't so loaded or judgemental.
<small>[ January 27, 2003, 02:43 PM: Message edited by: est ]</small>
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I just had a funny thought, what if we all sent letters to dear abby about our situations (of course changing the names to protect the innocent <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> ) then maybe there would be more awareness of the gut wrenching pain that goes along with an A. *********************************************** On another subject, I heard a journalist speak this weekend. She told us that she had won all kinds of awards in the early 70' exposing a school board chairman's A. (She was the OW!!! and openly admitted it !!) Then she said that back then it was a real scandal and now times have changed that it's almost mandatory <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> D.
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