Okay you guys, the plot keeps getting thicker. I am not making this up. Need some help! H and I are in Plan B. My Father in Law (H's Step father) passed away this morning. Funeral is in South Carolina (I'm in Minnesota). I loved my FIL so much and am so close to MIL that clearly the right thing to do is go to the funeral. H called to tell me the news this morning. He's also okay with my going to the funeral. <P>What kind of role do I play with H and with the rest of his family on Thursday? My pastor advised me to think alot in advance about this because it could be an extremely emotionally vunerable time. I don't want to do any LB's and I don't want to violate Plan B any more than I have to. And I don't want to cave into him since he's still in contact with OW. We're staying at his mother's house (separate rooms - she knows the whole story and is on my side).<P>Ideas?

This questions been on the board before, and the right thing to do is to GO, and behave as much like a wife as your husband will allow!<P>I am glad you will go and he agrees.<P>God Bless, and my sympathy to your family.<P>TNT

My condolences.<P>I agree, GO and be as supportative as you can be. Do not get drawn into conversations about you and your H. My prayers are with you and your family.