'dday' was 3 weeks ago but after he found out about my infidelity, he went to stay in VA for a while (I am in CA) and I do not have any way of contacting him but through mail. How does plan A work in this situation? Should I just keep sending letters explaining my intentions to build the four rules of love and like that? i have already sent him an apology letter and a packet of love and supposrt poems by Rumi (his grandmother died during this time too) and that is all---should i just keep sending letters like the one I have drafted on the four rules of love? Should i just wait for him to call? How do I bring him out of withdrawal from so far away?