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Plan B 3 weeks now and it has settled down with her not calling all the time and trying to corner me at home with "we have to talk"
Came home from work late last night and business envelope on counter with my name no return add.
I open it and start reading and it is a letter from WW concerning Chistmas plans for kids, misses talking to me, doesn't want to go through intermediary for communication, doesn't want us to end up hating each other, loves me (lybnilwy) etc.
Put it away was going to re-read it this morning then decided I shouldn't probably have read it in first place but caught me off-guard and once I started reading couldn't stop.
Question - should I
1) Ignore letter completely and not respond in any way. Kids can relay Christmas plans okay.
2) Send her e-mail stating plans with kids okay, love you too, I miss talking to you too (EN of hers I failed at) - let me know when A is over and we will talk
3) Send e-mail to intermediary stating plans for Christmas okay let WW wife know I miss talking to her too and when A is over I will be happy to talk to her anytime
4) Send e-mail to intermediary stating plans for Christmas okay. Ignore rest since all stated in PBL
(I think I come across as a little harsh since couple of LB confrontations after plan B started
Suggestions please.
Stayin' dark. DD
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Hi DD,
I don't know what Christmas plans are to agree to #4 but continue to stay dark.She hasn't done *anything to change Plan B status despite this attempt on her part.Be careful,you don't want to take two steps back.Stay strong.
It could be all about her still and she is having to deal with some fallout right now.
Keep us posted.
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That seems like really good news, DD, to have her say those things to you. I still have not sent my Plan B letter. I just don't know if I can bring myself to it.
Whichever you decide to do it really seems as though the fog is lifting from her. Be cautious and prayerful with every move from now on.
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Sorry for the threadjack, dd, but solon:
Don't make the mistake I did and try 2 do plan B WITHOUT a PBL. It takes careful coaching 2 do right. Without that, you can screw up royally, like I almost did last year.
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solon...what is PBL
Plan B Letter
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Thank you d Rose. Finally, a success story!!
I just read your post about your wife coming back. I was beginning to wonder if wives do come back after totally cutting it off. My wife has told me so many times that she does not want to be married to me I was beginning to wonder. But after I read your post, I have hope. Waiting is hard. I read where one guy on here has waited 1.5 years! I pray I can wait that long. But after reading your posts I believe I can wait.
I long to hear the words, "Can I come back home?"
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Plan B letter was given to WW
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goodie!!! a multiple choice test!!!!
#4 .... GOOD JOB!
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