This has been the worst time in my life. Just when I was going to send letter to H and his family he called and wants to reconcile.

I believe that I can tell he is telling the truth because he said he was sorry, it was all his fault, Satan has come between us, and he will have NC with OW.

He said he felt the door was closed to our marriage. I told him it was wide open, admitted my part in the problems, and still told him OW has to be gone. He said he knew that she had to be out of the picture. He wants to go to counseling and work on our marriage.

So this has been a huge surprise for me. I was at the end of my rope, praying for the Lord to intervene. H says he has been praying too, but thought that miracles would happen for everyone else, but not him.

Anyway he is going to call tomorrow and we are going to work on a plan for reconciling. I really believe he is being truthful, because he has not talked like this to me for a year.

Please pray that God will bless us.

Dear Believer,
That is just so awesome, and I pray that everything will work out! Let us know how things are going, and good job!
KK

thanks kk -
But no, I did a horrible job, no Plan A, lots of LB's etc. But I honestly believe him, just by the way he talked. He said he was convicted by the Holy Spirit, and he knows this is the right thing for him.

He accepts all of the blame for his affair, and said he always has run away from intimacy. He told me he would never put me through this again. This is such a big change from 4 days ago when he tried to forcibly move in with me. He said he was done with me, hated me, and would do whatever he could to ruin my life.

I have no doubts at all. I believe him just by the complete change in his attitude. I hope I am not being stupid, but on MB they always say you will know when the WS truly wants to reconcile.

believer:

That is great news!

Do be careful, though. Make sure that you 2 get a good MC that can help you back 2gether carefully. Get a good plan 2gether, and give it a little time before he moves home.

best,
-ol' 2long

believer, that is AWESOME!! I am so happy for you! Please read this post from Cerri about boundaries you should set before you let him come back. This will serve to protect you. The worst thing that could happen is if he comes back too soon and you have to see the affair play out under your nose! You don't want that to happen!

Read this: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=37;t=024255#000006

Thanks for all of the support. I am going to make an appointment to get counseling through MB. Also through our church. But I believe that the MB program can help us more than anything. It has gotten us this far and I only did the Plan B part. The counseling and information here is worth ten times what they charge. Oops, please don't tell the Harleys that.

SMART MOVE, believer!

Believer, this is great news <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> .

But, remember not to let him move back home until you know for SURE he means it....and that will take time.

Love and light,

Jacky

I know it will take time, working on MB principles and counseling. I have been in Plan B for 10 weeks and not talked to H except when he tried to move in Tuesday. I have moved on with my life, watch what I want on TV, cook when I want to, etc. For the last 6 weeks I have been very optimistic about life without H. So it will be very difficult and a big adjustment. And I will not go back to the way things were. So there is alot of hard work ahead.