I would stay in your home and make no big decisions for a year. If you have the space, but no money for anything, it will not help you at all.

Hope you have a great trip to Washington. It is nice to see that you are doing well.

I think SS is doing fine, cause I don't see her posting here too much.

Yo! This here topic has been bumped to the third page. What the he!!???

Anyway, I came lurking, and had to check in on my 3 favorite MBers.

Brett, wow, the D is for real. I can imagine your emotions were all crazy. So, here in Idaho, does that mean it is a done deal? Are you D'd?

Believer, I didn't see one recent post from you in my lurking today. Hm. I wonder where you are.

Ol' 2long, how is it going with your W? Still Plan B'ing? I hope you are both getting the space you need to get the perspective you want.

H and I are doing great. We are all going to Disneyland in 8 days. H has not contacted or been contacted by OW since the NC email he sent. We continue with weekly MC. H says he doesn't think about her, want to contact her, want to be with her, nothing.

H doesn't even care about her as a friend anymore. He doesn't care about her at all. He cares about me and the boys.

He says and does all the right things. And still I struggle every day. I think I will until enough time passes. But we are very open and honest with each other, we communicate, and spend all our free time together - except when we are doing our own things that we each need to do. He goes biking with his guy friends, and I go shopping, nail painting, gabbing with my girlfriends.

We learned through this that we each need to develop ourselves as individuals, as well as our M. We have learned a lot through all of this.

Please keep praying for us. I love you all lots, and hope the best for each of you.

SS

Spide:

Sounds like you're doing all the right things. Keep at it!

I'm working with Penny, and my W has talked 2 her and is thinking about it. Penny recommended we try 2 spend time 2gether but that I not move back right away.

There are bumps, but I'm hoping they're not serious ones. They could be, though.

-ol' 2long

SS-

Hi. I am doing fine. You and your family are still in my prayers. I truly believe that you have a success story. And you have helped so many people here - many thanks.

Brett is now divorced, and kind of unhappy about it, but not too unhappy. He is deeeeeeeply in the fog right now, and enjoying it very much, thankyou.

We don't hear from him too much - he fell head over heels.

I'm doing fine. WH is still making his reconciling noises, while busy boinking OW.

2long is still a rocket scientist and trying to figure out how a rocket scientist gets through all of this.

Well, well SS is doing well! Glad to hear about miracles that take place in the real world.

Yes, my heels passed my ears awhile back. Dangerous ground. But not to worried about it. We communicate very well. We have been forthcoming in our fears, likes, dislikes. I have been very open and have not had conversation like we've had ever. So the fog is thick as pea soup. I continue to go through IC and deal with my past issues. I've shared that part of my life with E. She has a right to know where I'm coming from when I seem a bit reserved. Yes here in ID it is very easy to get a D. It can happen in as little as 5 weeks. But I drug my feet for longer than that. Until I decided I wanted to move on with my life without WW forever. I'm not so unhappy about that at all anymore. The inner peace and joy grows stronger every day. I feel...FREEEEEE!

2long have you looked into quantum physics? Just a minor leap from rocket science. Get it, quantum leap. hahaha. I slay myself. I actually saw the pilot for that show being filmed while stationed at Edwards all those years ago. I'm looking forward to this weekend and seeing my buddy from all those years ago. We had some great times stationed there together. We still manage a couple times a year to have some milder times. He is going to be a Daddy in a few months, so I'll have to make another trip later this year.

Believer you sure have racked up the posts since we first began chatting. Kind of feel like an underachiever here. I moved rather quickly through my situation. But I felt like since I had been here so many times before that I was able to advance to Boardwalk a bit quicker. She may never change. I may never be able to "let it go." I don't hesitate at saying that I was ready to step aboard that ship and head off into the stormy seas when I did. I learned alot here. I read so many posts in all the different forums. I know the dangers I may face in future relationships. I do not look back at my decision to D with regret. I look forward to MY future with hope and joy.

Well I left the video run on the hee haw show and my mason jar is running low. Hey, where did I leave my spitoon?..............

Brett - I won't start worrying about you until you start telling us that E is your soulmate. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

No, I don't know what that is.Thought I knew at one time what that was. My X shattered that.

But life is looking better every day and I look at love/romance in a whole new light now. It is good. I feel so alive lately. I even dusted off some old music I hadn't listened to in a long time. Some good 'ol Robbie Robertson, great stuff. Well have a good weekend YA'll!

later.

Brett - Still thinking about you. Are you still in never-never land? Hope all is okay with you. You are a good man and deserve good things.

Had a great weekend up in WA with my old A.F. buddy. Drove 6 1/2 hrs each way and no problems with my 26 yr old truck. Other than 12 m.p.g. at $2.00+ a gallon it was fine.

Well gotta get some sleep, got IC in the a.m.
seeya Believer. Visited with E this p.m. I've been writing her stuff. I find it easier to get thoughts down that way. She started writing as well. We only see each other once a week, well except for last week. So there are days when thoughts need a pen. Catchya later Brett

Brett -

Glad you are doing well. It is good that you are writing to her, you are a GREAT writer. And I know it is hard for hillbilly's to talk good.

Have you heard from X lately? I am thinking this is like Plan B for her.

Hope you continue to relax and enjoy. And be good to E.

Not a peep from the X. I'm really enjoying that. My IC thinks I'm doing well. He did advise against getting serious w/E. We continue to get along exceptionally well. Strange stuff. Yak at ya later...

Take your time, there is no hurry. Just keep enjoying your relationship. Time is the best thing right now, both to heal from the past, and prepare for the future.

I'm flying up to Seattle in 2 weeks, and I hate flying. To top it off I am reading a thriller called "Airframe" about airplanes crashing. Do you think the mechanics at Southwest Airlines are any good?

I read that book awhile back. It teed me off back when I read it. There is a part in there where he gets his info wrong about maintenance being a leading cause in "accidents". Wrong! Pilot error is numero uno! So his credibility went downhill. Besides he took the DC10 history and used it in his fictional aircraft. He just changed the names. That is a fine airplane built in the USA and is tough as nails(DC10). His technical knowledge was horrible throughout the book. Then again it was written for the masses, where only a few of us would know any difference.

As far as flying on southwest. Thumbs up! I have many friends working and piloting for them. If I wasn't with the company I'm at now it would be with them. Have fun in Jet City!

Thanks Brett. What's up with you these days?

I'm enjoying life. I feel ten years younger. Having a great time with E. Excercising, working on cars, house, yard, etc.

I also talked w/friend of mine yesterday. Seems his W of 12yrs has been having an EA with an old "friend". I talked w/him a little. He was out of town and couldn't get into it too much. I told him I could send him in the right direction. I told him I know of a couple of books and a website. Hopefully they can come here and read and learn and save their M.

How r-u believer? Hope you are doing swell!

latergator

Hey Brett,

How is that tooth? Did that one tooth you have left fall out yet? I was just catching up on your thread been so enthralled in my own for so long I haven't kept abreast of yours. Sorry to see you got D. I guess sometimes it happens. It sounds like you are involved with someone already. Take your time buddy. Don't push it. You may just be on the rebound, I would hate for you or her to get hurt. I have already been D once and it seems as though the rebound thing happens whether we want it to or not. Hope things are well otherwise.

HINY

Brett - Yes, be careful, but go for it. You are now divorced (against your will), and I see know problem with having some fun. You have been very truthful with E, so I think you've been fair.

SS checks in once in awhile. She is doing well. I think her H has been chasing her through the potato fields, and she is letting him catch her.

I'm doing fine. It's almost summer, and in Southern Cal, you can't feel too bad. Glad you are feeling fine, you deserve it.

SS has gone to Disneyland with her H and 2 DS. I hope she is having a blast as she deserves to be happy and has worked so hard like the rest of us for her M. Seems like some work out and some don't. Seems like just yesterday when he H was asking for a D at the sushi bar. Strange huh?

HINY

Thanks for checking up on me. Yes I'm scared of the rebound thing. I don't know what that is all about. Never been there. I asked my IC what that is all about and whether I'd know it or not. He said only time will tell that. I've discussed it with E at great length. I've told her I in no way want to ever hurt her and I'm going through alot right now. She said she understands and is willing to wait for as long as it takes.

I haven't been this open with anyone before, and it seems to be good that I am. I feel alot for E and her for me. We approach every day with a sort of cautious optimism. Realizing the pitfalls of a relationship born out of heartbreak.

My one tooth seems to be doing fine, it anxiously awaits the bridgework with the gold teeths. lator gators!

wow, page four. Life after the big D is getting better and better. Hope all is well with those who have followed me through my speed mb'ing.

later gator