These aren't actually stupid fog talk, but stupid nonetheless...

WW (after dropping the bombshell on me): "I didn't expect it to affect you at work."

What the hell? It affected me 24/7! Why wouldn't it affect my ability to concentrate at work?!?!?!?

WW (7 weeks post D-day): "I don't think you're ever going to get over this."

Yeah, thanks for allowing me so much time for the gaping wound you left in my chest when you ripped out my heart and stomped on it to heal. Very decent of you.

TBXW (post-separation): "How do you think I feel knowing that you're telling everything to the women you date?"

Who cares how you feel? What you did to me is now an indelible part of who I am. It informs my thinking, my attitudes towards relationships, and a lot of other areas of my life. Your selfish and stupid actions didn't take place in a vacuum, Brainiac. Besides, any woman contemplating getting close to me has a right to know if what baggage I'm carrying and if getting involved with somebody in my situation is too big a risk. Deal with it.

Maybe next time we'll think a leeeeeetle bit more in advance about the consequences of our actions, hmmmm?

<small>[ May 05, 2004, 12:02 AM: Message edited by: reservoirdog1 ]</small>

Bumping up for all the newbies here! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

IMO a public education program showing people saying stupid fogese comments could be an effective warning to prevent at least some affairs. They best way would be for former WS's to be shown, confessing how far their fogginess took them before they finally ended it. And they would be warning others to avoid affairs in order to protect themselves and their loved ones from doing anythign so embarrassing and devastating.

It could show people how silly their justifications are and maybe help stop before they get so alien-abducted?

Plus it could also help the BS's cope with the bizarre things they hear; let them know it's just common fog talk caused by the adultery and to try not to react to it.

Oh, you guys really made me laugh.

May I add mine;

"You don't ever have to worry. All the big bosses here are very family oriented. I'll never have an affair to jeopardize my position in this company."

"I thought it will be a one time thing. Something temporary. It will be over soon." 2 As, total 3 1/2 years.

"I loved you more when we were good. I will always love you. You don't know the power you have over me."

"It just happened."

"She is a very happy person, not like you. She's always happy, she's never miserable or angry. She's so young, so happy."

"She only wanted to try different types of relationships." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

To OW: "I wanted to cancel the wedding but mother blew her top!"

BAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!

In an email to the OW:

"I'm searching for a book titled How to leave your wife of 18 years because you're in love with someone else and not devastate your child in the process. I don't know if I'll find such a book, but I'm looking."

Does that count as fogese?

Both my husband and the OW acted as if I didn't exist. In fact, her family thought that my husband was the answer to their prayers...he was going to sweep her off of her feet and take care of her for the rest of her life. I was only a minor obstacle that needed to be disposed of quickly.

And...

"She had big boobs. I don't like big boobs. How many times must I tell you I don't like big boobs."

"You know how hard it is to get sex over the internet?"

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Here's a couple of good one's

"I never ment to hurt you."

"It doesn't have anything to do with him."

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by The Tinman:
<strong> Here's a couple of good one's

"I never ment to hurt you."

"It doesn't have anything to do with him." </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I dont know HOW MANY times I've heard those, especially the latter! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

My latest one from FWH! "just let me be with her for two weeks to get her out of my system"

And this was said in the presence of a fellow MB friend <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Hi, it's me again.

This has sparked a big big question in my head, and I would like to know how you guys view this.

It's kinda weird.

I discovered my H's affairs via backed up emails he sent to OWs, and from OWs to him. There were four females. Now... here's the weird part: two of the females were fictional.

Yup, he said he made up the other two because he wanted to make the first OW jealous. He suspected OW hacked into his email account.

It starts with how very heart broken he is with OW. He was willing to give everything up for her. He bought her a house in a very upmarket part of the town and sent her the key hidden in a bouquet of roses.

H was writing to these fictional OWs every day; forget the first OW, they say, they wanted to sleep with him. He resists, but soon gives in. He is over at their place to tuck them in at night, they give them a BJ before he goes home, they shack in during the weekends, they don't want him to use a condom, etc etc etc. This went on EVERYDAY for about two months. It was hard to believe that they were NOT REAL. When I reread the emails, I found the fictional OWs having the same friends as I do from high school, and were reading the same old english author I liked. Coincidence?

What do you guys think of this? Would you say this is a MAJOR FOG, or would you nail it as a quasi-A, like EA is A without physical sex, would you say this is a A without a real OW?? Am I begining to sound nuts?

Wow... great stuff.. made me feel better!

Here are my 2 cents:

OW:- I didn't think we were doing something wrong because it felt so right. (bweurk)

And the winner is:

OW:- Your H really knows how to treat a woman! I really enjoyed it!
me:- My God, how can you be so insensitive to say that to me like that?
OW:- I'M NOT INSENSITIVE!

<small>[ August 06, 2004, 02:59 AM: Message edited by: brownhair ]</small>

I forgot one :

(on asking why they were idiotic enough not even to use a condom)
OW-: I'm not the sort of person who will get a VD.

Ask and ye shall recieve!!

I knew we'd had plenty of threads like this in the past, thanks for bumping this!!

Here is what I got from WH:

I'll always love you and the baby no matter what happens between us.

I'm not happy and I need to find out what makes me happy (even if it means finding this at other peoples expense)

It was your fault because you didn't fulfill me sexually.

"I need to wear a lot of perfume because my coaches get close to me"

"It's spiritual"

"My panties get wet from peeing too much"

" You're not letting yourself heal"

"People come into your life for a reason"

"You've got girth"

"You need to have new experiences"

and my absoulte favorite whenever I protest the constant phone calls; "you didn't take your blood pressure pills today did you?"

"Steve Harley thinks you're the problem" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

They really ARE all the same! I wanted to add mine but couldn't think of many that aren't already here.


Here's one: "I wish she could just move in with us."

Here's the one that made me the sickest:

on Dday: "I didn't plan for my relationship with her to get physical."
1 day after Dday, when I ask about my safety: "You don't have to worry about STD's, we tested for HIV before we had sex."

(me thinking: and that wasn't planning???)

WW: " Why are telling people that I left you for someone else"

WW : " It would be very easy for me to send the NC letter to the OM, but I won't because I know that is what you want me to do."

Boy do these bring back the memories.

1. We didn't mean to have sex, it sort of just happened.
(of course!)

I asked whether he had been tested for STDs and he gave two of the best back:

2. She's not that kind of person.
(so what kind of person is she??)

3. She got tested herself BEFORE we slept together
(not only did that contradict the first statement, but it just proved statement 2!).

Plus all of the others:

4. ILYBINILWY

5. I just need time alone to think
(said to me whilst he went away to an undisclosed holiday destination, I wasn't allowed to contact him, but he OW were in daily contact via cell phone)

6. You MADE me have an A
(funny, I didn't even know anything about it 'til you told me!)


And my absolute favourite:

7. I HAD to talk to her - someone was chasing her with a knife and going to kill her!
(strange that OW thought to call my 70kg WS first, before phoning the police!)

"I don't know why"

"It was my way of coping with your depression"

"I used a different email because I felt like I had no privacy"

"I used the porn when I masturbated, because it felt dirty to think of you while I was doing it"

I swung by this place a few days ago. Its been quite sometime since my last visit. When I read this thread......ohhh man....the memories of those quotable quotes. I just had to register.... heres just a one from down memorylane.

H...she was'nt interested in sex

ME....then why have sex?

H...she called me for it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />


take care all....

One more:

H: She wants to know if we'll marry her. She really likes us both.

(turns out though that she really didn't like me too much)