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***I love you but not in love with you.
***Maybe I never really loved you.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I also heard many of the others that were posted. Here's my favorite though.

"I honestly didn't think you'd care that I had an A and slept with OM"

In MC session:

WW: "You're so controlling!"

MC: "Can you give an example of how your husband is controlling?"

WW: "wull...YES! Like that time two months ago when I wanted to put another coat of wax on the kitchen floor, and you convinced me not to!"

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In MC session:

WW: "You never want to socialize with our friends!"

MC: "Can you give an example?"

WW: "Wull...YES! Like that time you didn't want to go to that party!" (the party was in 1983)

OMG! I read this entire thread and took all of the ones that applied and put them in a document for reference.

Here are mine:

1. I KNEW right form the start that we would never stay married because you told me that the psychic said you would marry 3 times. And that the last time would be for money. (WTF? THis was a party that I went to. NOt to be taken seriously. WH conveniently forgot the part where I told him the second marriage was for true love. And the part that I kind of snicker about is that what I didn't tell him was that the 3rd marriage is supposed to happen after the 2nd marriage to the love of my life DIES!)

2. At our 1 and only counselling session;
C: Why do you want out of the marriage?
WH: Because she never bought me a wedding ring. (HUH? He is not allowed to wear a ring at work as people, including a friend of his have lost fingers when they got caught. And he had a choice between a ring and a digital camera, (which he lost) He said he REALLY want the camera to take on his trip. THe trip that he decided our marriage was over on.) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

My wife LOVES lighthouses. Whle I was involved in my EA we took a trip to the Lake Michigan shore.

She was going on and on and on about how what I was doing was an affair, I wasnt seeing the true OW.

We were at a lighthouse with a fog horn. I told her she sounded just like that. Lots of noise, but always the same thing over and over.

Now I can sit back and laugh about that. She was trying to be a fog horn.

Thankfully she sounded me through my fog.

<small>[ December 15, 2004, 08:36 AM: Message edited by: john3479 ]</small>

Aaahhhh Fogese. Such a strange language to learn. Here is my list from WW.

I love you but not in love with you. (My favorite)

Even if we get divorced you'll still be a big part of our lives (WW & son). You can see us every day and we can spend lots of time together.

I haven't had feelings for you for 2 years (since S was born)

I haven't had feelings for you for 4 years (since we've been M)

I haven't had feelings for you for 8 years (4 pre wedding, 4 post, and we had a child 2 yrs into M. Next thing you know, she'll say she never really liked me and we've only spent the last 10 years together because there was nothing better to do.)

It's not about OM.

You are psycho.

You just don't want to be a failure.

A D won't have any effect on S, he'll be better off.

I hate everyone, nobody cares about me.

Fine, I'll do the right thing, I'll come home. But you can tell our parents not to expect any more grandchildren because I'm never having sex with you again. (I guess we'll just be ceibate for the rest of our lives).

I don't wear my ring because I don't feel M. (but wore it throughout 5 month A).

Fine, you'll get what you want, you always do. (Referring to WW moving back home. Obviously I don't, because I didn't want the A. Is it some great prize to be the second choice?)

There is much, much more, but I don't really try to remember it anymore. I'm sure I'll have some more I remember.

*****Marriage is just a piece of paper******

*****WE can still grow old together and maybe get
married again one day******

*****I love you like a sister*******

*****I haven't been happy for 10 years*****

*****OW has more to offer******

This is the crap I hear! IDIOT!!!

Forgot to add my favorite one.....

***Our son will be just fine and I'm doing the noble thing by leaving. Our son will respect me for that and understand.******

YEAH RIGHT! My son is 8! All he knows is that his father left him. UUUGGGHHHH!

This is a good one...


You contol me with your guilt!

and then... the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me:

WW, out of the blue: "How come every time I see you, I want to ream you a new arsehole?"

I replied: "So you DO love me!"

After being away from home for the first time when we separated.... I had to for child care reasons..... She looked me in the eyes crying and said " I can't just walk away from you!"


Would you consider this fog talk

My WH said something similar to me. He said he wasn't ready for me and our son to be out of his life. He couldn't walk away because his heart wouldn't let him.
I think they are so confused and are trying to still figure out a way to have their cake and eat it too.

My favorite --

"She wanted to be your friend ..."

Heard that one too. "We can still be friends and I may even be best friends with the man you date."

How about:

"I wish I could take you and your responsibility and her and her party-ness and squish you together into one person."

A$$.

I heard....
"She could live with us and then you could play the MOM"

This thread is just TOO MUCH!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I am laughing my head off! Here are my favorites:

WH: "I love you but I'm not in love with you."
WH: "I just know that she (OW) is my SOULMATE! And we are meant to be together but just can't right now." (She wouldn't leave her husband.)
WH: "It's really all YOUR fault that I had this affair. If we had a good marriage this never would have happened." (Well sure, after all the health of the marriage is TOTALLY MY RESPONSIBILITY!)
WH: This said to her in emails: "You are the most amazing, remarkable, fantastic woman I have ever known and I will ALWAYS love you and am ready to commit to you. And when I make a commitment it is a promise you can depend on. I am a man of my word." (What about the promise you made to me when we married?)
WH: To me "Our marrieage has been dead for 10 years." (So why didn't you bring this up 10 years ago? Or even 5 years ago? Why wait to have a horrid 2 1/2 year affair that I had to drag the truth out of you, argue for those 2 1/2 years, and then finally force me to file for divorce from you who has been living for 10 years in a 'dead' marriage?)

And my all time favorite:
WH "Even if we get divorced we'll (he and I)still have to see each other, probably daily because of the kids. So things won't be that much different." (Cake eater)

I could go on but I was actually relieved to read all of this 'fog' talk to know perhaps he has simply been temporarily insane.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

(On the reason for the affair): "I thought you didn't love me, so it didn't matter what I did."

(Another reason for the affair): "I thought it's what you wanted. It would give you an out."

(On the secrecy): "I wanted to tell you so many times. But something always came up."

(On what she liked about the OM): "He was so expressive." (Meaning...he talked about himself all the time.)

(On our marriag,e during the A): "If we got divorced and lived next door to each other, things would be perfect."

<small>[ December 15, 2004, 11:54 AM: Message edited by: AndrewA ]</small>

this is a wild one

out of the blue she looked at me very angrily and said " do you remember when we were dating and you wouldnt keep my dog at your house? i said yes she said " IVE HATED YOU FOR THAT EVER SINCE" (11 YEARS, 1 WEDDING AND TWO KIDS AGO)

Dalson, she must really have loved that dog!

This is a bit off-topic, but...here are a couple of classic quotes from the OM:

"An accident happened."

"You shouldn't let your wife out at night."

"You are making my life difficult." (This was after I told his wife some of the details of the affair that he neglected to mention to her...and after I called him at work and nearly got him fired.)

<small>[ December 15, 2004, 12:24 PM: Message edited by: AndrewA ]</small>

omg that is hysterical, i wish i could record 1/2 the sh*t mine says and play it back in a couple years.....