I took my daughter out to his work today. (Backstory for those that don't know: his new work schedule is very time consuming and he'll have to go sometimes 7-10 days without seeing the kids b/c he's living with OW. I am still firmly planted in Plan A.)
It is a good hour drive away, but I had to run an errand about halfway there - so I figured I'd go all the way. I didn't call him until I was in the parking lot. When I did, he was pleasantly surprised and asked if I wanted to go to lunch (the first restaurant meal we've shared since he moved out). I said sure and we headed off to Chili's. On the way there, he said, "so you went to ***, then decided to drive 40 miles out of your way?" I said yup - and that I wasn't sure I was going to stop, but I did.
Lunch was very nice - we kept it light. No R talk, no mention of the OW or his living sitch. We had a few laughs and reveled in the wonderfulness of our daughter, who was being her cute, adorable self. He thanked me for bringing her out there, and told me that he really appreciated it.
He just called a while ago to talk to our son. When I spoke with him afterword, he asked what our plans were tomorrow night. I thought and told him that I didn't think we had any. He asked if he got out of work at a decent hour, would it be okay if he stopped by. I said sure. If he does stop by, this will be the first Friday night he'll have volutarily come since he moved out. He's always saved those nights for her, I guess.
Nothing earth-shattering today, but it still felt like some baby steps in the right direction. Now, the question is, will he tell her about lunch - and if so, will she blow a gasket? hehehehe <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> It's all part of my evil plan....... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
Please keep your fingers crossed for me. I know nothing's
really happening, but it still feels good to see traces of the man I married. Maybe I'll actually fall asleep tonight and have a pleasant dream for a change.
