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just wanted to spread a little joy that a WH is talking to SH and that God's will will be done. wish you the best L&H.
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Thank you RR for starting this tread for me.
Wh said he could only talked briefly with SH. I said ok, if he didn't use up the time, he will call me. But obviously they talked a lengthy time.
Just got a call from SH's office, SH wants to talk to me briefly this afternoon, but I am not available.
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Cherished, thank you. I don't put too much hope in it. I just wish he can have someone to talk to, so he can let his thought out, not making him so miserable.
Hope everytihng is going well to you.
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I've heard Harley say on his radio program what he says to WSs -- if you were in as love with your spouse as you are now with the OW, wouldn't your life be a lot easier? If the WS answers the obvious yes, then he asks if he is willing to give his relationship with his wife a test.
My guess is that this is what SH would say. It is still up to your H, but I think that I am seeing my H change a lot -- Good luck, and keep us informed!
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Talked to SH about 5 minutes today. Here is what he told me.
H is will ing to talk to him, that is a good sing. That proves what I am doing is effective.
H is very confused. SH just lay the ground to him to show him that thing can be worked out. But don't push him too hard.
H told him that he is going to MB to investigate the possibilities, no commitment at all. SH said that is fine. I totally agree.
H said he wanted a seperation, but SH told him no.
SH told me NOT to go to Plan B at all.
I feel ok. But I still don't want to be too rush. I know slow and steady will win the race. I will keep working on myself. Make myself a good wife and a good mother.
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A separation is for the convenience of being with OW. If you can stand it until the MB weekend, that's great. However, make sure that SH knows what you have told us.
Personally, I never could have stood it, but I'm different from you. Some people in your situation would not be able to stand it.
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Cherished, Thank you for your concern. Sh knew everything I told here. I e-mail him some major events.
I can't stand for him to be out there. I would prefer him to be home.
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what did your H say when SH said "no" to separation? does your H have another time set up to talk to him? thank you for sharing this, thank you for telling me that you pray for the OW, i've started doing this as well, much prayers to you.
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I don't know what H told SH. Our talk yesterday was very brief, it was 5 min. But I will talk to Sh tomorrow, then I can tell you more detail.
Thank you for your prayer. I keep praying for all of you too. I do pray for the OW's family, they have 2 little children, 2 and 6. It is heart breaking to see little children like this to lose their family.
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Lostnhurt, My H once said something very insightful: "You cannot separate the person from the situation." Your H's knowledge and love of OW is very flawed because the relationship was developed with thoughtlessness towards you and continued in deceipt. He may think she brought out the best in him, but she actually brought out the worst, and your presence is proof of that. I think you're in good hands with SH. Good luck, and I am thinking of you today.
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Cherished, thank you. I am thinking of you too. I don't know how much contact H have with OW. I hope that it will die down eventually.
You are strong. you have 4 kids. Take good care of yourself too.
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Lostnhurt, I never went through what you are going through now. Please do take care of yourself -- and let us know how things are going!
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lostnhurt,
Let us know if you are coming to MB weekend. I could be your local tour guide and organize dinner w/ BayAreaMBers.
Let us know.
-rh-
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lost, when you said if he didn't use up all the time he would call you, did you mean SH would call you? or did you mean that your WH was going to call you?
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RR, I meant if my H didn't use up the time, he will call me and I will call SH. But he did use up the time. I will call SH in few minutes.
RH, yes, we are coming to MB weekend. It will be nice to meet you. Our kids will come to, they will stay with in laws. In laws are in Oakland.
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RR, please read my thread in Plan a/Plan B.
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