Okay, here I am again. Not sure where I need to be or what I should do.

R left for work in WV two weeks ago. Found out Sunday that he is still in contact with OW even though he has said it is over. She has also said it is over. We have been doing good. No LB from me, working on a good Plan A until Sunday.

R says he wants to be at home with his family. It is the right thing for him to do. We have been to one session of counseling and schedule to continue when he returns from work.

My dilemma is I want to be married, I want to believe my husband, I want to wake up and we will both have moved away from this. Our 1st child has not had either a mom or dad during his whole life.

And most of all, I don't want to be 2nd. The OW has said she is moving on, she doens't want any part of R. So I asked R if he only wants his family now because OW doesn't want him anymore. R said NO because she (OW) knows that I want my family.

I know that if we spend a night together in the same home that the affair can not be used in the divorce. So I think in my heart that R really does want his family but in my mind I wonder if I am just 2nd place.

Any advice, suggestions, whatever I am ready to hear what yall have to say.
J