Early this morning (4ish) I woke feeling lonely - even though WH was there. I decided to surprise him by fulfilling a fantasy he told me about (has to do with waking him up). I did this and great SF followed. When we were finished he held me in his arms, but he sensed something was wrong. I told him that I wished he would fulfill certain emotional needs he had before. He said he was sorry. When I asked what for, he said "for everything". We left on a good note. We work at the same place so by 9ish I felt like I needed him to know what my most important emotional needs were so I shared the ENS with him (I had filled it out a couple of weeks ago when I gave him some information from the MB site). We didn't discuss it - I just gave it to him.
This afternoon when he returned from another worksite he visited and gave me his ENS. I was surprised by some of his rankings. According to the ENS, I have been meeting most of his EN, but I have found a few areas to work on. I'm sure some other EN were not being met prior to the A, but I've worked hard to meet the ones I thought I was not meeting before. As the MB site indicates, we are very different in our rankings.
I feel that reading the information and filling out the ENs was a huge breakthrough for him. Now that he's done this, how do we proceed? He keeps telling me he feels like we're moving forward, I'm just afraid she'll call and we will be at the beginning again and by the time I find out - it will be too late. (PS: I'm not sure where she's at with her relationship with her H -in fact I wouldn't be surprised if he doesn't know about the A - they live over 100 miles away and I don't know either of them personally - she did tell my WH that she was planning to divorce her husband either way, but I have my doubts.)
