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As heroswife recently pointed out to me, there are a lot of handy ways to refer to the OP. Now, since I am somewhat of a scorned woman, I like to get creative with these. Some of my fave's are:

BFW: Big Fat Whore
NH: Nasty Ho
TB: I like this one, because it is the initials of a deadly disease, and a OW nickname: trashy b****

There are always the movie themed nicknames:

Predator
Fatal Attraction
Terminator
Much Ado About Nothing
Mean Girls

There are always the good ole standbys:
B: B*****
HW: Home wrecker
BFL: Big Fat Loser

You can also personalize them. For example, I like to make fun of the chics name, Hetall (I pronounce it as HATE -ALL).

Now, I do not want to hear from anyone about how it is not all the other person's fault, the wayward spouse has just as much responsibility, blah blah blah. We BSes know this, and we do not want to hear about it. We are, in fact, adequately angry at our spouses, and I will save all the nicknames I privately use for my WH, for another thread. I also do not want to hear about LBs, etc. I never, ever, ever say these things out loud to my WH (that would be because I am in Plan B, and I do not speak with WH, but if I did, I would not be disrespectful about her, even though she was disrespectful to me and my children).

So have fun, vent, and share.

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Uhm.... boy. This strikes me as a really disrespectful place to be, in relation to another human being, even one who's hurt you.

Disrespect only hurts YOU, in the end.

Me, I say this about OM: "He is a truly wonderful dancer."

It's the one unreservedly good thing I can say about him. So that's what I say.

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Hey Christy how bout some if the OP is male. I have a few.

F*** Face
Bottom Feeder
Dirty Rotten Basturd
D**khead
Skidmark
POS=Pile of S**t

Sorry but since POS got a DV and might be causing mine that's all he is to me.

<small>[ May 07, 2004, 01:00 PM: Message edited by: The Tinman ]</small>

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I'm with you, Christy.

My codename (not really code at all <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ) for OW is PS - psycho skank.

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MAKE note : when someone here is venting, it is the OW/OM of their situation they are venting about .

JMVHO .

In regards to DISRESPECT -- the only person truely disrespected is the BS !

WITH that said, I have to many names that I use , and as for the threard on the one for FWS , he surely knows all of them .

LB or not HUMAN beings get angry .

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CC- common ****
WT - white trash
manipulating twat
DUS- dried up snach

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Voldemort

You know, from Harry Potter - (s)he whose name no one dares to speak

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Just J: This is just another example of my sick humor. And all I can say, is you are obviously a better person that I am. Now I feel a bit shameful...

Forgive me for going to a dark place, the negative inner talk that I sometimes have floating around in my head.

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Well I am going to be a bit dishonorable for a minute and list my all time favorite name for my WH Op: Homewrecker.That name popped into my head right from the beginning and it fits,perfectly.My In-laws/SIL call her this too now. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

If I am really mad: Homewrecking sl**,trashy homewrecker or F'n parasite.

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ChristyV,

Hey this is a TGIF post <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

OM - Chicken [censored], big talk but a coward

-rh-

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My favorite name since finding out OW has had a few relationships with other married men is

The SOW (serial other woman)

The name fits her because I believe she is a big, fat, filthy, female PIG that preys on other's troubled marriages.

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Now I know that I've come a long way... I can actually see the humor and creativity in some of these names. I can even appreciate that it's helpful (at times) to be able to vent things like that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Captain's wife: Now I KNOW you are a better person than I, to come here, read dark nasty thoughts about wayward people, and find a way to laugh.

I am showing my emotional immaturity. Now I really feel bad.

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I took the first four letters of the OW name and I added the last four to come up with her pet name.

isab!tch

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Captains Wife,

I think I posted to you before about this briefly.It does help BS's in a way to have these names because just saying" I can't stand that LADY" or "That MAN is ruing my marriage"etc doesn't quite fit.These words,for me,represent the anger I have more and I believe that all anger comes from a source of pain.

Anyway,I'm glad that you are not offended anymore. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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And christy, I wouldn't feel bad. Both OP and WS were very dispectful of BS. At times I need to be able to vent and make sick jokes to get past the whole awful thing. I think when I reach the point I can laugh about something instead of crying, I'm making progress. I've always had a warped sense of humor, but I do like laughing more than crying. And I've cried enough over the A. Good luck to you.

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SK skanky b!tch
HH Hateful Ho
BL Big Loser

I don't know who coin the phase here, but my all time favorite has to be @$$holemates. Fits so perfectly!

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The only thing I call OW is O.W. in front of my H...I try not to say anything bad about O.W. right now, cuz he only defends her. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Says "she really isn't a BAD person" or "she's not like that" or "you just dont know her"

Well, the only thing I have to say about that is that I would never go out to destroy a married man's family! But it wasn't her it was ME!

Yes, I am STILL dealing with fogese! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

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I appologize for my post of POS=Piece of [censored] I hate to degrade [censored] like that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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Please remember that your hurt drives and feeds the names you use at least as much, or more, as the actions of the people around you.

I have been, to my great sorrow, an OW. If the Betrayed ever wish to scream these insults in my face, I'll take them and accept them as my own, as appropriate.

But... the names you call are an expression of your own hurt and anger, and anger tends to grow when watered. Would it not be better to have compassion for your own hurt and anger, as well as the object of it?

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