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Hi all. I know you all know my story. Well WH is back again, wanting to reconcile. I know this is getting old to everyone. But please pray that we will get back together.
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believer.. is he meeting any of your conditions... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ark
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I will be praying for you! I hope you can reconcile believer!
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Good luck, Believer...My prayers are with you.
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what does he say about the OW??
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Hee hee. I read the title of this thread and I thought, "AggAIN?????"
And then I started laughing. Believer, I love you dearly because this keeps happening. I don't know why that is, exactly, but there you go.
You must be one fabulous woman to have him returning every ten days (or so) like this, even when things are so yucky.
Now we just gotta figure out how to get him out of the cycle...
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Well, what did you say?????????
He IS like a broken record, isn't he? That's GOT to make you feel good that he keeps coming back.......
YOU ARE A ROCK.
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Believer,
I know you've been through this before so just be very careful. You know better than I do what is right for you.
I really hope things are turning around for the two of you this time.
LL
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I'll say a prayer for you tonight too.
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I hope he's meeting your criteria for reconciling and I hope he means it Praying for you believer.
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Believerrrrr...i saw your thread title and started laughing. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> So so...dont keep us in suspense...tell us what happen? Did he ended it with OW? I hope the best for you.
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You just wrote the following last night and here things have changed in evidently just a few hours. Bless your heart!
Never say never...that is for sure in this roller coaster ride of affairs!
Love, Julie
Posted by Believer: "Listen to everyone else. I think they are much more experienced than me. But I do know how you feel. I am not the right one to advise you. My kids are out of the house and I am pretty much done with WH."
<small>[ May 10, 2004, 02:23 AM: Message edited by: Blessed TIME ]</small>
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Believer, Just how does your WH keep coming back anyway? Haven't you changed the locks or tried not answering the door if it's him. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> You know you are now in just another wacked out cycle with him.He rolls by every 10 days,see's you there,get's a fix,says I want to Reconcile,then srolls away again into arms of OW. This is his *way of life now.This is how he is living.What is the payoff for you?,as Dr.Phil says.Otherwise I would imagine that you would not be available to WH if there weren't any.Nothing's changed right? Except that you could put a stop to the enabling behavior of WH. You know I think the world of you,you are strong and give so much help here buuut.......you know a fencesitter when you see one.I just wouldn't want you to continue on eternally in this limbo.You deserve so much more.Let us know what transpires. O <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />
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Well here is what happened. I was out fishing with my boys, and when we came home, there was WH sitting on my porch. He said I need to talk to you. I asked him if OW was still in the picture. Yep, she is. How many times have you heard this one before? But then he started telling me that he is miserable, can't sleep at night, and the Lord is "pounding him". He said that he is sorry that he hurt me, blah, blah, blah. I told him I feel for him, because I have talked to many WS's on MB, and it is quite miserable when they break up with OP. He said that he is more miserable staying with her. So in the end, I told him he will have to decide how he wants to live his life. Oh, by the way Zizzy, I did sleep with him. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
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Believer... I am sitting here with the stupidest smile on my face...with tears running down my face... that has to be the FUNNIEST post ever... just your whole attitude about this...that no matter what happens... YOU YOU are gonna be alright... Next time you come home and find the alien being on your porch ... you should walk past him without saying a word......get the heavy cast iron skillet in the kitchen...come back outside... nail him with it right between the eyes... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> nail you with it right between the eyes... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> sleep with him... offer him a lemonade... pat him on the head..and tell his you'll see him next weekend..... ARK hah hah hah hhah hah hah hahh <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> honest to pete...classic...
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ARK- At least he is not sleeping out in a tent in my yard. See r & j's post. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Oh my God Ark that is funny...if WS shows up at my door I will keep the fying pan ready <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ..Believer..and you slept with him <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I hope your WS sees what he is missin Babe <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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Believer, I jaut came back from a business. Your thread caught my eyes. Oh, what a WH. Give the book HNHN you bought from garage sale to him to read. Ask him to fill out the working agreement and bring it to you if he comes to see you next time.
R&J's post also made me laugh. I don't know why these WH are so strange.
OW's H called me today. He said his W was home most of the time. I told him to come here to get help. I hope that there is really no contact.
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Believer - You offer so much to the rest of us that I can almost forget that you feel the sting of infidelity in your life too. I really pray that your WH will give up that "pesky OW" and return to the strongest and most loyal person he will very likely ever meet.
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Hmmmm. Well. Okay. So the whole "get out of my life until OW is gone" thing seems to not be working here for ya all that well.
So how about another approach, Believer?
How about you say to him, "Hmmmm. So you're still dating OW, but you're miserable, and want to sleep with me, huh? Well, that's an interesting approach. I'm not really sure that I'm interested, but dang it you do keep showing up on the porch and then somehow we get teleported to the bedroom, so I s'pose SOMEONE thinks this is a good way to live life.
"So. If I'm gonna live life this way, I want to know what you're going to do for me to make it worth my while."
And then sit back and watch what happens.
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