I have been in plan B for 3 weeks. It is weird to not hear his voice after 11 years. The hardest part is wandering what they are thinking and if they are coming around.
I was told H had a miserable Mother's Day. I was glad to hear that. He still is telling his friends that he doesn't love his wife. That is hard to hear, but not the first time.
I am staying away from our mutual friends that see him as it doesn't help me, but it is hard to not wander where they are at in this process.
I know I have to be patient. It is just taking sooo long. I have never been a patient person. I had a dream last night that he came back. First one of those.
Today is a new day. I am going to try to put my mind with my baby. I can't wait for him to be here. I know I will be overjoyed and this mess will be in the back of my head.

many of us are dealing w/trying to stay sane as well. wish i had more words to say. i'm wishing a lot these days. prayers to you.

Just hang in there, sweetie!
In farmer talk: this is a hard row for you to hoe!

Could you take the time to add a reply to the topic 'new, need advice' posted by robby 13 (FL just bumped it up)

He cheated on his pregnant wife and she is not as forgiving as you have been with your H.
Perhaps, you will be able to help one another!

Sincerely, Julie <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Imagine what a fool your H looks like to his friends! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> He claims he doesn't love you anymore, and he's justifying his A... meanwhile... they all know that you're expecting your first baby. What an a$$ he must be to them, on a moral standpoint!

As far as the whole mess being left behind when the baby is born... trust me on this, it is a bittersweet time, if your WH isn't back home.

What helped me then, and still helps me now, is to think of what a shame the WS has CHOSEN to miss out on such a beautiful time. Infancy comes and goes so fast, and there are so many of those "firsts" that happen in the first year. If your H isn't around, he's going to miss out on ALL of them. Isn't it sad that he's chosen that path for himself (at this point)?

With another little uplifting twist... you will need to remind yourself how fortunate YOU are, to have the opportunity to have this precious miracle, to see all of those 'firsts', to nourish, love, hold, bathe, and yes, even diaper! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Good for you on staying away from the mutual friends, after recognizing that they aren't helping you, emotionally. And the dreams, heck, I still get them now and then (more lately, with the newer court crap coming up). During pregnancy, women tend to have far more intense dreams than usual, so don't be surprised if they happen more frequently.

And finally, as far as NC and plan B goes... it gets easier the longer you're in it. The more you focus on yourself (and your new baby! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ), the more you'll be able to move forward, and continue to stay happy.

Karen

I think my hormones are raging today. Being pregnant sure puts a twist on dealing with all of this.
Our mutual friends (four guys) all went to dinner as it was planned before all of this began. My H was telling them about the girl he was dating and how he wanted them to meet her.
They were like he is delisional. They will not be going back out with him anytime soon. One of them just had a baby.

Oh the hormones of pregnancy! You are doing great under the circumstances. And remember, when your little one is born, the motherly, nurturing hormones kick in. It is wonderful. All I wanted to do is talk about babies, babies, babies. Anything else was boring to me.

Betrayedwife is going to have her baby today. Please pray for her. Her WH has showed up for the birth.

Was her husband not going to go to the birth? Is he still with OW.

My H comes to our home to pick up the bills and get the checkbook. I am getting my own account next week so I won't need the checkbook. Has anyone got a good idea for getting the bills to him? I don't want to pay them myself as he other bills we don't share.

I have an appointment with my attorney on Monday. It is such crap that I did nothing and have to pay the crazy amount an attorney costs.

durham - Betrayedwife's WH just did a complete turn-around. Now he says he wants to stay with her. So hopefully he is with her.

Hang in there, you are going to be okay.