Can any of you give me some insight, please? My H and I have been separated (living in separate homes) since Oct, and he filed for D in Feb. However, during the separation (until he started seeing OW), we were going to MC, dating, having family time, and still intimate. I really thought that even though there was a pending D, we were trying to work things out. H changes his mind a lot...he's been this way during most of our relationship- even before we married. one minute he wants me, the next minute he doesn't- definite commitment issues. Anyway, H was seeing (he says it's over, but not sure if I believe him) OW for about 3 1/2 weeks, but he refuses to acknowledge it as an A! We're married, so he had an A- that's my take on it. He says, "We're separated, and getting a divorce...I just moved on....and I am not sorry. I'm sorry I hurt your feelings, but that's all". Is he for real? Is he right? I can't help but still see this as an A. Some help, please....

I think most WS's think if you are separated that anyone they are involved with is not an A but the bottom line here is until you sign Divorce papers you are still legally married and anything in between is Adultry and yes an A...my lawyer and I discussed this situation and indeed in the eyes of the law until Divorce papars are signed...you are still legally husband and wife...

IN MY EYES and that of many others, ESPECIALLY GOD! I would say that until the offical divorse is finial & just that "offical", what he is doing is considered an A! Just because he doesn't feel like maintaining his vows & claims that b/c he isn't still M'd to you in his heart of whatever.. doesn't mean that god still doesn't acknowledge your marriage covenant.

"We're separated, so it isn't/wasn't an A" ..ahh..hits home for me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> We are/were still MARRIED I'm sorry I know other's will offer better advise. I just wanted to sneek my opionion in.