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My WW has moved out to "find herself" .Says she has no contact with OM,this i'm not sure of.I'm in plan A when ever possible.My question is...will her decision to return to me be able to be made as long as OM is still an option?
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My wife said she had to get out also and said she was living with one of her girlfriend's from work who I knew. I found her living with OM. Why can't she find herself while living with you? Are you a tyrent or something? Sounds like a copout to enable the affair more since you know about it. Has the affair been exposed is the OM married? Did you tell his W about the A if he is?
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Tinman...NO the OM is divorced...say's he'll wait forever for her to decide. Funny thing though ..The OM's wife left him for an other man ...you'd think he would know how much pain he is causing me and our family.
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Have you read the principal's here and the general concept's. I'd also get the books here and start reading them. This is a trying time in one's life. Read about Plan A and impliment it and read here. Best of luck. More people will answer your question's trust me this is a great sight. There's nothing you can do to stop her from leaving trust me, read about love buster's and see if your doing any. Don't be needy this is very unattractive trust me I know pushed my W right out the door with this.
<small>[ May 20, 2004, 04:31 PM: Message edited by: The Tinman ]</small>
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second what tinman said and there are many ways of looking at the situation of your W moving out and you being still in plan A. i think the more you read here the more you will learn about the pros and cons of this. again, like tinman said, others will come and give you some suggestions/advice. the only thing though i would recommend about posting here is to make you titles or subject lines more "eye catching" you know get the readers attention versus "question?" just a suggestion for the future because you can't go back and change it like you used to <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> oh well, don't give up and you are capable of more than you ever dreamed. prayers to you, RR
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you'd think he would know how much pain he is causing me and our family.
He's not the one causing the pain, it's your wife.
And as far as "no contact" with him, don't hold your breath. Can't say I have ever heard about it actually happening when a ws moves out.
Read the links below.
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