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D-day was 1/5/04, just to say that wasn't about A, but our M (total fog). WH move to own apartment (for space, blah, blah, blah) within week. Became total depressed and on A-Ds 2 months later. So used that as a start date. Now after a great Plan A and Hope, SH$t, Hope, SH$T, I am ready to Plan B---6 Months--RIGHT ON TARGET. YOU WILL KNOW WHEN TO PLAN B!!
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I really do believe that A is starting to end, but WH needs to justify it now (that would be the reason for all the SH$T I am now receiving). Worse part--I think OW is getting fed up and threatening to leave (of course, they can always pick up another, especially if they are single). This just makes my WH want her/chase her more.
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How I wish I could see the future. It has been 4 months since d-day here and no sign of A ending.
My fear is that this A could last 2 years. I know it can not last forever but I am afraid it can outlast me.
My WH's OW lives out of state so they see each other twice a month. During these visits I have our kids her ex has hers. Their time together is still pure fantasy w/o bills, laundry or sharing time with others. It is so frustrating.
Please someone lie to me and tell me their time together is not as enjoyable as I imagine.
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LJ, I don't think I would be lying to tell you its not what your imagination makes of it. I told my shrink that my imagination is probably far worse than what is actually happening and he agreed wholeheartedly. I don't think he would do that just to make me feel better..............
My WW is spending more time with OM now that I have the kids for the 1st 6 weeks of summer vacation. Is them spending more time together likely to speed-up the demise of the A???
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My husband has been involved with OW for 10 months now (started in August 03). He has been living with her since May 1 (with the exception of a 36 hour reconcilliation May 11-12). I asked him to leave since he wouldn't agree to NC.
He isn't entirely happy living with her. He doesn't have a car and only works one day a week. I try to remain optimistic. In September it will be one year from D-day and I will access then if I should divorce or wait longer. I am currently in plan B, but am communicating with H at times.
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So does 6 months generaly hold true? Or is it more or less in the experience of these boards?Gotta keep in mind that most people who end up here at MB are not necessarily "typical". The 6 months are for ALL affairs. FYI: My (ex's) affair is now at 5 years, 3 months. (Do I win something?) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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<small>[ November 07, 2004, 12:05 PM: Message edited by: cipher ]</small>
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