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I'm a little confused right now. My wife and I finally had an in depth conversation, not just chit-chat but actually taking about feelings. It has been hard to get her to open up her feelings.
Anyway she says that she is still tending toward divorce, becuase she never felt with me what she felt with the OM. We talked and cried for a couple of hours and then when we decided to go to sleep she snuggles close. Something that hasn't happened since even before D-Day.
Her body language is telling me one thing and she says another. What do I listen to?
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My WH did the same thing. We have never snuggled because I am just a hot temperatured person and he makes me sweat when I sleep. Right after Dday and he came back he started snuggling all up to me, but he was still seeing OW at work. I'm not sure what it means, just know it happened to me also.
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Her body language is telling me one thing and she says another. What do I listen to?
You "listen" to both...
and you recognize confusion and inconsistency when you come across it.
And you don't "bet the farm" on anything inconsistant .
Make no mistake... a confused and lost person can make a sudden U-turn without warning.
Wait and see..
Plan A is an exercise in patience, that's for sure.
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Thanks HINY and Pep. I always thought that I was a patient man, but God has a way of testing us doesn't he. I will listen to both and pray that I only respond in a positive way. God Bless everyone on these boards!
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Recognize that she is deeply in the fog. It is your job to show her the way home. Stay in Plan A for a while longer, and be the best man you can be. Hang in there.
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