Good morning,

Congrats on your last day of school! Did you go to the doctor this week? How is the baby? I'm sure he's still kickin... Did you have another sonogram? I forgot to drop off the phone. I will next time. It's in my bag.

WH

Make it a great B-day and Memorial Day weekend!

Translation: "please oh please contact me so I won't feel sooooo guilty about abandoning my pregnant wife! Can't we just be friends? I really need a durham fix badly!"

Don't give him a durham fix, durham. If you do, he can go longer.

Translation:

I'm testing you to see if you really mean what you say...

Stand firm, Durham. You certainly don't want to give in and have to start all over.

You're doing just fine. Keep taking care of you and baby!

Lori

ditto ditto ditto

durham - don't messages like that piss you off?

He's trying to play nicey nice with you while you're carrying his baby and while he's muff diving in the Poconos with OW.

Not only should you NOT contact him because of Plan B, you should NOT contact him because he's disrespecting you so much.

WAT

Dear Durham,

When does your attorney recommend filing for child support? Is there a range of possible times? When is the earliest that child support papers can be filed on WH?

Has OW's husband been able to improve his trustworthiness any? How can he deomnonstrate that to OW? Have you recommended any Counselors, Webistes, Books or Self-imporvement, or parenting pograms to OW's Husband? Do you feel confident you can keep things under control when you contact OW's husband? Anything you are trying to watch out for?

Blessings

<small>[ May 28, 2004, 10:02 AM: Message edited by: Whaler ]</small>

OW filed for D and goes to court June 3. She gave up custody of her son to her H.
I will file for child support after the baby is born and if we go through a D. Currently WH is paying for everything he needs to and I am saving money.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by durham76:
<strong>She gave up custody of her son to her H.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, no sense in trying to reason with her!!!

Unbelievable.

When I read about things like that (giving up your own son), I wonder about the "fog." It is more like, "I HAVE LOST MY DAMN MIND."

As a mother, no love, no relationship, no fantasy, no NOTHING would ever, ever, ever, ever, ever convince me to give up my BEAUTIFUL children.

What kind of woman would do that? What kind of man would not stop this ridiculousness and be with his WIFE while she has HIS SON!

Durham, stay dark girl. It is getting to him, BIG TIME, and two things will happen:

1.) Either it will eat him up so bad, he will end this crap and get on with the hard work of rebuilding his relationship with you.

2.) He will end his relationship with you (because either he has to get out of the A, or invest everything he has into it), and you will be better off in the long run anyways. Because life, marriage, and parenthood are hard, and you and your son need someone who will be there for you during it all, even when it get's really bad, let alone when it is really good (the pregnancy and birth of my children, in my perception, were some of the best times in my marriage). Imagine what will happen if you or your child were to fall ill, or there was some other serious crisis (God forbid) in your life???

HE MUST LEARN THIS LESSON NOW. You need a spouse that will be there for you.

Dark Dark Dark Dark Dark Dark.

P.S. You are my new hero!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

durham,

Just wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I know it is hard when WS is in a public, in your face affair. Been there. ((((hugs)))).

By the way, could you please tell us all what the lawyer said.

Glad you are lining up your ducks in a row.

It is very, very good that WS family and some friends do not want to meet ow and that they think his is nuts. The more people that say this is not okay the better.

You are doing great. AND you are Worthy. Don't forget that. Have a happy happy birthday and holiday. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Love in Christ,
Miss M