After reading Inga's story, I went to the TOW site and read from their topics. I feel dirty. These women & men believe that they found "true love"? One women confessed to being the OW 4 times. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I don't know why I even went to it - stupid I know! But they actually are coming to this site & going back to that filth & saying that we (BS) are angry & un-christian-like. They think Plan B is the best thing - gives them are WSs. Quoting Harley as a fool.

I feel like crying and I feel like a DDay has occurred. People actually enjoying being a OW. Oh why did I go there? <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

It's pretty shocking, isn't it? That is a sewer of humanity over there where they openly celebrate evil.

Last time I broke Plan B I was talking to WH about TOW site. I wanted him to go there to see what the OW were up to, how they sometimes purposely break up marriages while only pretending to care about the wife and kids. MY husband is a serial adulterer who always defends the OW, believes they really believed all his lies... So I wanted him to see he might be being decieved by the OW just as much as he thought he was deceiving her.

I suspect 'Inga' is Gina, my WH's current OW.

<small>[ June 04, 2004, 05:24 PM: Message edited by: meremortal ]</small>

BB2, you have God on your side and us as well. prayers to you and God bless, RR

Am I allowed to say that as a FWW I went to have a look once because I'd heard it talked about on here - NOT because I wanted to join it. It was curiosity because it always stirred up such a strong reaction from people here.

Filthy is the only way I can describe how I felt after I saw it. And not because I'm a WW but for exactly the same reasons you say Betrayed - the women on there made me feel physically ill.

Jenny

Where do I go to see the TOW site....I'd like to show my husband so he can get an idea of what the OW is still trying to do to our marriage. She's calling almost daily to his work, telling them she is someone else so they will put the call through...it's horrible.

It just makes me mad that they have this holier-than-thou attitude. I love my H so much and am devasted that he has done what he did. But I do know that if my so-called friend didn't lead him on and ostracized me at the same time, that maybe I would not be here.

My OW calls me a "creepy bit*h" - what did I do to her? These women are using foul language and belittle BSs for wanting to work on our Ms.

I can't stop crying thinking about what my OW would write- I am soooooooo sick of this carp.

LJB0801 -

The TOW site is gloryb.com - but I warn you, it is an extremely ugly site. I have tried to see all sides of an A, but these OPs think they are so perfect and right and their MM are their "soulmates". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Thanks!!!!

I believe they think they are perfect. I have talked to the OW several times and man this woman just blows my mind at some of the stuff that comes out of her mouth.

The latest, she called to let me know she was going to be in town and wanted me to let my husband meet her to watch her son ride motorcross. Talk about wacked.....she's been told numerous times to not call, no contact what so ever and she just won't go away. It's almost scarey.

Thanks again!

OMG I've just had another look.

I'm shaking. It's revolting, it's beyond words.

Jenny

Since all but Melody posting on this thread are newer posters to MB, we have in the past experienced a kind of "board war" where MBers post on TOW and are flamed & vice versa.

You can, of course, post anywhere you want I merely want to inform you of a past pattern.

Please, my friends, don't go there anymore. You are just giving your power away by even becoming a number on their "This Site has over ##### hits."

I have heard about this site since I first came to MB in February. I have no desire to see it. I already know the mindset of people justifying the unjustifyable.

Just don't go! That is your strongest fight against them. Give them no attention. No energy. No nothing!!!

SS

Point taken thanks Arch.

I can see how that would happen.

Subject closed as far as I'm concerned.

Jenny

B by II,

Yea I go over there every once in a while.
Guess I just need to remind myself just where the OP and WS are Really coming from. (I mean while they are in the A, not all the remorseful speech given here).

However, I can't stomach too much of it.
Its really tough to read how these people live and think?
Tough to stomach that my W actually thought the way these persons do.

Going to that site will really make you think twice about the whole "FOG" theory.
READ what they are doing and then tell me they are in a Fog. (Many there are Both WS as well as OP).

Any of you ever read about what they write about the good folks at this site??

They make fun of and run down MBers.
I was actually surprised about that.

I think you must have an open mind when you go there.

When i first visited it...yes it was horrible to read their stories but after the next time i find i am able to understand a little bit about their feelings. i use that understanding to fight in my own war with OW..for example believe or not...most OW do not want MM(our WS) to leave their wife(US) for them. OW wants MM to leave because their marriage is bad. Another knowledge is that OW is jealous of MM always going back to wife...this is good to know when you are doing plan A. Too bad i did not know this then perhaps i could have done a better job at plan A.

Another subject which i think all of you MUST read is the Q&A part...the Q&A is not about the site...it is regarding frequent questions that people always ask about their affair..for example does ow/m ever feel guilty about their affair? Who ends the affair and why? etc etc

I think we must learn about the OW. How to fight the enemy is we do not know anything about them? Knowledge is a weapon and we must have that advantage.

COULD SOMEONE GIVE ME SOME ADVISE??/

I went to look a while back and I was repulsed also. I read one post where someone gave an OW some advise and said "you aren't really hurting anyone, I mean not really. It isn't like you have physically hurt them. And as far as the kids, they will get over it and adapt to a new life".

I almost puked, and died. I never went back. I just can't imagine thinking that about children.

HINY

Ya know, Like I told them, if you don't like it, dont go. The bottom line is, there are a LOT of people in PAIN out there.

I defended THIS site on TOW, so turnabout is fair play. TOW has helped me tremendously. I wish the internet and THIS site was around when I was a BH. I lurk here, and gain knowledge and compassion by doing so. Im glad i found TOW when I needed it. Are there really "flakey" people there? Sure, and here too.. and everywhere, just like "real life" people. Hell Im probably one of em myself.

as Arch mentioned, "board wars" ain't good. Emotions run high, objectivity is lost. For those who want and need to see whats happening from other angles, and remain sane... I encourage board hopping, for those who are teetering on the edge, or just found out, its probably a bad idea.

I think I'll c/p my own post from there to here... since its MY post, I assume its ok, and if it isn't, feel free to delete it mods. no hard feelings.

hugs, c

"clarkie
Member
Member # 53

posted June 04, 2004 05:14 AM
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I actually like the site. PLEASE don't stone me to death! You HAVE to understand, that if the WS chooses to reconcile and remain in the marriage, it is NOT bad advice. DOES IT SUCK [censored] for the OP? You bet your [censored] is does! THAT said, most (not all) of em will "play the game", and call you tomorrow with a big huge apologysaying he/she made me do it.

Ya know, I am getting sick and tired of this OP ONLY attitude here. YES TOW is FOR the OP ONLY, and it has been a blessing to me, for 5+ years...

but in those 5+ years, I have learned a LOT. It usually IS a TRIangle folks... there IS a BS out there, somewhere... and THEY are most likely in PAIN too. (if they know, or are confused as hell as to what the f*cks going on if they dont)

again, my apologies... but I have been the H, the BH, the OM, the B OM, the x OM, i have never been the MM or WS, and that one I can't relate to. I CAN relate to the BS, as i was that long before I was the OP, and it just plain sucks. Don't like it? Don't go there. And I feel like I have paid MY DUES to this particular site, a thousand times over, and have NO GUILT whatsoever, relating in a non PC TOW way. I just try not to be TOO judgemental, as there is no telling what HAT life will find you wearing next.

hugs, c"

My H came home, I told him that I went to the site (he knows I have been reading everything & anything to gain perspective from all sides) and told him that how sick it made me. He just hugged me and stated he believes that having an A is wrong and that he was sorry for everything. He went onto say that there are people out there that it is a way of life and I should just read from positive sites that want to rebuild.

However, that site left an awful feeling with me. I know about the children - saw quite abit about that it was good - A, Dv, etc. - sick comments from sick people. They were bashing the MB site, calling all BSs angry bit*ches, etc. What did we (the BS) do to them? Get the man first?

Clarkie -
Your post at TOW, I did read. You and I think one other person actually stated that there was more than one side to this story. I was always raised to believe more than what one person stated - there are three sides to a story - yours, mine & the truth. That's why I went to TOW - but it was a dark ride.

JMHO
BB2