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D-Day 2 weeks ago. WS is still at home and has not made any contact in the last 2 or 3 days. We have made significant progress but I have not gotten from her a NC. I have spoken with OM's wife on a couple of occasions over the last 2 weeks. The problem is this-WS has a trip plannned to visit her Mother, it's her Mothers 80th birthday. The trip is to another state about 600 miles away. The last time she was there OM meet nearby. Do I inform the OM's wife when she leaves?
I think I have to.
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Oh, hell yes. I have had contact with OMW since D-day. We were letting each other know whenever there could be possible contact. Unfortunately, WW and OM didn't let that stop them and eventually both left home. But, yes, definitely let her know.
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Second on the OHY!!!
I have been at this for a while now. I my mind, there is a HUGE difference between trust and verification. I don't know your story but 2 weeks is no where near enough time to be thinking about trust. Trust takes a lot of time and a whole lot of actions(on her part) to rebuild. Meanwhile discreet verification is an absolute must. I would bet that the worm is still alive and well in her brain at 2 weeks.
BTW does the NC on the end of your name refer to your location?
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Third on the OHY!
Trust must be rebuilt. It must be earned. And this is exactly how you do it.
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Grasshopper sez: don't ever trust an untrustworthy person! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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I am considering taking time off from work and accompaning my ws to her mother's b'day. Should I?
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Yep - go with her. That will take care of the problem.
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