Wow! This is a a major turn of events. I have toyed with the idea of telling OW parents (thinking that she must be younger), but wasn't sure about doing it (I would have to pay $$ to find out their address). I can't believe that they initially didn't believe you. Well, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree (rationalizing, total denial, etc.). Hopefully, they will be able to talk some sense into their daughter. Just you wait, I can't imagine that her parents will be tickled pink that their young daughter is in love with a MM 17 years her senior.
When I was in my early 20's I was seeing a married man and didn't think that I was having the affair, since I wasn't married. I did stop seeing him as soon as he said that he wanted to work on his marriage. But I think if my parents had known they would have sat me down and said, "What the hell are you doing! We brought you up to THINK!! What you are doing is wrong, wrong, wrong!!" My friends at the time didn't say too much to me. You need parents to say the hard stuff. Let's pray she has parents like that.
Thanks for resonding to my post yesterday. I was in the middle of responding to you, when the phone rang and, of course, it was him. I was in earshot of his message and he was saying "I will not go through intermediary. It's ridiculous and awkward for him and everybody." (Notice he didn't say it was awkward for "him"). Anyway, I was so disgusted with myself that I turn off the computer and finished a bottle of wine. I'm back on track today.
Do you recommend telling OW's parents? I was thinking of sending my Plan B letter to them (when and if I can get their adress.
FE