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Joined: Feb 2004
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Is it true that EN can't be met as long as OP is an option....WW and I are seperated. She moved out to find herself. She says she is having NC with OM ...I have no way of knowing...I'm in plan A right now with few results . I asked her to show me her phone bill and she refused saying i have to learn to trust her. We kiss and hug when we see each other ... have decided to see less of each other to see if absence makes the heart grow fonder. Seems like she doesn't knoww what she wants!
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Joined: May 2004
Posts: 195
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quartz,
Not an expert. But seems to me trust isn't turned on and off like a light. You build trust. She is hiding the phone bill for a reason and the reason isn't to teach you how to trust her. Hope I'm mistaken. But I've heard all the same things from my WW this past month.
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Joined: Feb 2004
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I don't understand ...if OM is so appealing,her "soulmate" why she doesn't go to him.She keeps both of us hanging on. Here's a question to OP why do you wait for BS knowing that you are ripping a family apart. Do they care or not.
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Joined: May 2004
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In my own case, I don't believe OP is looking to move into my family way. He is interested only in my wife, and the obvious benefits that involves. As long as he has access to my WW his goal is met, whether she is Divorced or not. However, my WW believes that she may need the D to begin a life with him.
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Joined: Sep 2002
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I know that Cingular will let you access call information over the internet. If the account is in your name and you have the account number the rest is easy. As for hanging on to both the OM and yourself, she is a typical "cake eater". She can have the financial support that you provide and also act like a single woman on the side. Building trust is discussed in detail in the SAA book. Total accountability is the only way to earn back trust. She needs to give you access to all of her email and phone accounts, as well as letting you know her schedule. Has she sent a NC letter to the OM yet? This is also critical. Anything less from her is not acceptable.
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