Hi I posted a couple times a month or so ago and really am still trying to figure this board out.

My H and I have been married for 18 yrs...9 yrs into our M he had an A It was short lived but the pain was long lived. We went to counseling and did well for a long time....9 yrs later I find out he is talking with someone on the internet and they are *in love* well one thing leads to another and we are told about a wonderful intensive workshop for sexual/relationship addiction. He agreed to nc with this person before he left but about a week before he was to go we were away for the weekend I fell off a horse broke my leg....had surgery was hospitilized for a week...I am now spending my summer with no weigh bearing on my leg and will be until the end of August....Things changed quickly!! I came home from the hospital which was several hrs away and couldnt even take care of myself He flew out to this workshop and even though I knew he needed to go for our marraige it was still awful not having him here...He came home just so ready to work on our marraige and had nc with her since....I did see he was struggling with it though and then I found out she was telling lots of guys the same thing she was telling my H and I showed him the proved and that ended his struggle. He was humiliated and has been absolutely wonderful the past month. It was suggested that there be no sexual contact between us at the workshop for 30 days or more depending on how the bs felt....Last night we resumed this and it just felt like the right time.
My question is....Since he has done the workshop and has made a total change...he is over the internet thing he is committed to our relationship he is in IC and wants us to do mc just right now my focus and energy is on healing my leg and just getting around on a daily basis so we are going to wait on the mc part. Should I just embrace him back and go forward like nothing happened? I want to do the right thing but just do not know what the right thing is? Thank you for your insights! Lavendar44

Should I just embrace him back and go forward like nothing happened?

My advise is to go embrace him and go forward; not as though nothing happened , but as in spite of what happened. With grace and forgiveness, recalling Gods grace toward you.

Think of this broken leg as an opportunity for him to display his love and renewed commitment, while he cares for you.

While your leg is healing, may your mutual love heal too!

I love the part where you said in spite of what happened....I do feel I can do that. I think because there was no physical contact that helps make this a little easier....also the changes are big in my H so I am taking that into account....
I didnt want this to be my story but...I guess since it is...I will have to deal with it! Lavendar44

Its an ugly chapter in the book of your marriage but its far from the final chapter heck its only the middle of the book. Plenty of time for happy chapters and the happily ever after ending.