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OK... it's time to break out my little folk singer, Ani DiFranco:

For the angry BS who's not going take it anymore:
Outta me, Onto You from her genius album "Dilate"
it's gonna be sudden
it's gonna be strange
i'm gonna turn on a dime
give you five cents change
it's gonna be long
overdue
it's all gonna come out
outta me, on to you

outta me, onto you...

one of these days
you're gonna push too hard
we'll go on like we've always done
'til you go too far
yeah one of these days
it's gonna reach the top
then it's gonna start to spill
and it's not gonna
stop

outta me, onto you...

no more...

some people wear their smile
like a disguise
those people who smile a lot
watch the eyes
i know it 'cuz i'm like that a lot
you think everything's okay
and it is
'til it's not

outta me, onto you...

no more

some people wear their heart
up on their sleeve
i wear mine underneath my right pant leg
strapped to my boot
don't think cause i'm easy, i'm naive
don't think i won't pull it out
don't think i won't shoot

outta me, onto you...

most people like to talk a lot
including you
you know there isn't much i have to say
that i wouldn't rather
just shut up and do
i'm gonna miss you
when you're gone
yeah i'm gonna be torn
just remember that i love you
just remember you were warned

outta me, onto you...

no more...
no more


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"Shrug" from Evolve:
Shrug
what's with that halo
hovering
above that thick skull
spare me
if i do say so
i think you're covering
course there was nothing
could have prepared me
for the side effect
of this dirty drug
the way you punish me
and then you shrug

what's with that phone call baby
it's like you're trying
just trying to crush me
do you feel stronger
each time you push me dear
did you tell your mom
you carpet bombed
before you left here
and is it just the side effect
of this dirty drug
or does each apology sound
more like a shrug

are you at home now
with your kitty cats
are you just at home now
with the way that you act
do you split the rent there
with all your secrets
or do you just pretend
to all your friends
they're uninvited guests

yes and

when you want it tidy, tell me,
can you still dispell me,
sweep me
neatly under the rug
and does your conscience ever mention
the way that you treat me
or do you just fend it off
with a.....


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And more from Dilate, one of my favorite angry break-up records of all time:
"Superhero"
sleepwalking through the all-nite drugstore
baptized in flourescent light
i found religion in the greeting card aisle
now i know hallmark was right
and every pop song on the radio
is suddenly speaking to me
yeah, art may imitate life
but life imitates t.v.
'cuz you've been gone exactly two weeks
two weeks and three days
and let's just say that things look different now
different in so many ways

i used to be a superhero
no one could touch me
not even myself
you are like a phone booth
i somehow stumbled into
and now look at me
i am just like everybody else

if i was dressed in my best defenses
would you agree to meet me for coffee
if i did my tricks with smoke and mirrors
would you still know which one was me
if i was naked and screaming
on your front lawn
would you turn on the light and come down
screaming, there's the @$$hole
who did this to me
stripped me of my power
stripped me down

i used to be a superhero
no one could touch me
not even myself
you are like a phone booth
i somehow stumbled into
and now look at me
i am just like everybody else

yeah you've been gone exactly two weeks
two weeks and three days
and now i'm a different person
different in so many ways
tell me what did you like about me
don't say my strength and daring
'cuz now i think i'm at your mercy
and it's my first time for this kind of thing

i used to be a superhero
i would swoop down and save me
from myself
you are like a phone booth
that i somehow stumbled into
and now look at me
i am just like everybody else
i am worse than everybody else

Thanks for letting me get those off my chest!


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Peach is a SOUTHERN GIRL AT HEART AND ALWAYS WILL BE! On way to work heard old song..."If I'd been the One" by .38 special...

I used to love .38 in high school...and my xh liked them as well...I guess I heard the song and kinda teared up..even after all this time.

I just teared up all way to work...Lyrics and music really get me.

I believe truly this song sums up my feelings after having been forced to divorce the man I once thought was the one.

Here it is.

"If I'd been the One"
.38 special= Tour De Force Album
I've been lost inside, empty space in my heart
And some things never change, no
How it hurts me and how it's tearin' me apart, and it just goes on and
on
Can you read my mind, take a good look at my face
Could you take the time, just to stand here in my place
What if I'd been the one to say goodbye, goodbye
Could you smile when inside you just wanna cry, look inside
Can you read my mind? Oh oh
When I hear your name, feel so cold deep inside
Still it's hard to explain, oh
But you're not meant to be, they say time will heal the pain
But it just goes on forever

Can you read my mind, have you closed the door on love
Can you be so blind, did you think I'd just give up
Chorus:
What if I'd been the one to say goodbye, goodbye
Could you smile when inside you just wanna cry, wanna cry
What if I'd been the one to say goodbye, goodbye
Could you smile when it hurts so deep inside, and it never fades away
Fade away
(Solo)
Time can't erase the reasons why
I count my mistakes and the heartaches since you said goodbye
(chorus)
Never fades away, no it don't fade away


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to those in plan B....

another .38 special song..

"Hold on Loosely"

You see it all around you
Good lovin' gone bad
And usually it's too late when you, realize what you had
And my mind goes back to a girl I left some years ago,
Who told me,
Just Hold On Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling to tightly,
you're gonna lose control
Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in

It's so damn easy, when your feelings are such
To overprotect her, to love her too much
And my mind goes back to a girl I left some years ago
Who told me,
Just Hold On Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling too tight babe,
you're gonna loose control
Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in

Don't let her slip away
Sentimental fool
Don't let your heart get in her way
yeah, yeah, yeah,

You see it all around you
Good lovin' gone bad
And usually it's too late when you, realize what you had
And my mind goes back to a girl I left some years ago,
Who told me,
Just Hold On Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling to tightly,
you're gonna lose control
Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in

So Hold On Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling too tight babe,
you're gonna lose it
You're gonna -- lose control
yeah, yeah, yeah Just Hold On Loosely but don't let go
If you cling too tight babe,
you're gonna loose control

Hold on Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling too tight babe,
you're gonna loose control
yeah, yeah, yeah


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Don't let him steal your heart away.
Phil Collins

From the cd: Hello, I must be going!

I love this song; it speaks of the abandonment women feel when their mate is away, of the despair of loosing her love, of the rationalizations of affaires, of the seduction used by OM, of the anger and the pleading. A great song after 20 years (1982) I still hear it on the radio.



You were lonely and you needed a friend.
And he was there at the right time with the right smile.
Just a shoulder you lean on.
Someone to tell you it'll all work out all right.


Don't let him steal your heart away.
No! Don't let him steal your heart away.
Don't let him steal your heart away.
No! Don't let him steal your heart away.


You can look at him the way you did me.
And hold him close say xxx.
But any fool can see your fooling yourself.
But you ain't fooling me.

So don't let him to steer of your heart away.
No! Don't let him steal your heart away.

Don't pack my suitcase I'll be back.
Don't take my pictures off of your wall.
Don't let him change a thing because I'll be back.
Just tell him to pack his things and get out of your life.
And injust gave me one more chance and I'll show you I'll write.
I'm right.


because I've been thinking and I know it was me,
leaving you lonely but hoping you could be strong.
Can you look at me straight tell me,
what else can I do but say I was wrong.
So don't let him steal your heart away.
No don't let him steal your heart away.


Well he's going to try to make it work for you.
And make you think your whole life has been leading to this.
But whenever you do, think about me,
Oh! Don't be fooled by his kiss.

Don't let him steal your heart away.
Please, don't let him steal your heart away.

And don't pack my suitcase I'll be back.
Don't take my picture off of your wall.
Did you hear me.
Don't let him change a thing ‘cause I'll be back.
Just tell him to pack his things and get out of your life.
And just give me one more chance and I'll show you I'm write.
You know I'm right.

'Cose You were lonely and you needed a friend.
And he was there at the right time with the right smile.
Just a shoulder you lean on.
Someone to tell you it'll all workout all right.

But he's no good for you.
He'll make you think your whole life has been leading to this.
And whenever you do, think about me,
Oh! Don't be fooled by his kiss.

Oh no no non
And Don't let him steal your heart away.
No! Don't let him take it
steal your heart away from me.
Don't let him steal your heart away
Don't you let him take it.


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JON BON JOVI - Always Lyrics
This romeo is bleeding
But you can't see his blood
It's nothing but some feelings
That this old dog kicked up

It's been raining since you left me
Now I'm drowning in the flood
You see I've always been a fighter
But without you I give up

Now I can't sing a love song
Like the way it's meant to be
Well, I guess I'm not that good anymore
But baby, that's just me

And I will love you, baby - Always
And I'll be there forever and a day - Always
I'll be there till the stars don't shine
Till the heavens burst and
The words don't rhyme
And I know when I die, you'll be on my mind
And I'll love you - Always

Now your pictures that you left behind
Are just memories of a different life
Some that made us laugh, some that made us cry
One that made you have to say goodbye
What I'd give to run my fingers through your hair
To touch your lips, to hold you near
When you say your prayers try to understand
I've made mistakes, I'm just a man

When he holds you close, when he pulls you near
When he says the words you've been needing to hear
I'll wish I was him 'cause those words are mine
To say to you till the end of time

Yeah, I will love you baby - Always
And I'll be there forever and a day - Always


If you told me to cry for you
I could
If you told me to die for you
I would
Take a look at my face
There's no price I won't pay
To say these words to you

Well, there ain't no luck
In these loaded dice
But baby if you give me just one more try
We can pack up our old dreams
And our old lives
We'll find a place where the sun still shines

And I will love you, baby - Always
And I'll be there forever and a day - Always
I'll be there till the stars don't shine
Till the heavens burst and
The words don't rhyme
And I know when I die, you'll be on my mind
And I'll love you - Always


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
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I get the feeling lately that every tv show I see and every song I hear, has to do with infidelity. Its spooky. And I get nervous everytime I turn on the radio nowadays.
And is there anybody in the world who hasn't been cheated on???

Hi and love to all,
Shul


(send prayer please. We are starting to get into the nitty gritty of recovery.)


Love never fails.
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U2's One

Although not written about M-W love, I think Bono was referring to the AIDS epidemic, it still applies... This band's last album, How To Dismantle An Atomic Bomb , in it's entirety, is dedicated to the joys, trials and rewards of marriage... buy it and listen to every word... PS - Bono has been married for 20+ years and is also a Christian! Damn good humanist as well...

http://www.lyricsfind.com/u/u2/how-to-dismantle-an-atomic-bomb/

ONE - Johnny Cash and REM have covered this song as well!! So eloquent.. and applicable...

Is it getting better?
Or do you feel the same?
Will it make it easier on you now?
You got someone to blame
You say

One love
One life
When it's one need
In the night
One love
We get to share it
Leaves you baby if you
Don't care for it

Did I disappoint you?
Or leave a bad taste in your mouth?
You act like you never had love
And you want me to go without
Well it's

Too late
Tonight
To drag the past out into the light
We're one, but we're not the same
We get to
Carry each other
Carry each other
One

Have you come here for forgiveness?
Have you come to raise the dead?
Have you come here to play Jesus?
To the lepers in your head

Did I ask too much?
More than a lot.
You gave me nothing,
Now it's all I got
We're one
But we're not the same
Well we
Hurt each other
Then we do it again
You say
Love is a temple
Love a higher law
Love is a temple
Love the higher law
You ask me to enter
But then you make me crawl
And I can't be holding on
To what you got
When all you got is hurt

One love
One blood
One life
You got to do what you should
One life
With each other
Sisters
Brothers
One life
But we're not the same
We get to
Carry each other
Carry each other

One

One

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wow..one is awesome...love that song.

I am a southern girl..but I also love alternative...here are two songs...

One is from band O.A.R.

Love and Memories: Heard it today and downloaded it to ipod. awesome song...to me it reminds me of dealing with the WS. ..especially the part where they see their loved one standing their with "eyes glazed over" staring at the floor...what an apt description of a wS?

here is is...cool song...

Love and Memories-OAR

Lovely, you're always lovely
A vision
You were the one
Now I am stuck inside a memory
You forgot about our destiny
You buried me
Didn’t you?
Didn’t you?

Love me faster than the devil
Run me straight into the ground
Drowning deep inside your water
Drowning deep inside your sound

You’re always floating
A vapor
That I couldn’t see
Here I am stuck inside a yesterday
Everything has given way
You fell from me
Didn’t you?
Didn’t you?

Love me faster than the devil
Run me straight into the ground
Drowning deep inside your water
Drowning deep inside your sound
Love me faster than the devil
Run me straight into the ground
Drowning deep inside your water
Drown in love and memories

Maybe I am a crowded mind
I watch your eyes glaze over
Stared down at the floor
You were amazing to me
I was amazing to you
But here we go again

Didn’t you
Love me faster than the devil
Run me straight into the ground
Drowning deep inside your water
Drowning deep inside your sound
Love me faster than the devil
Run me straight into the ground
Drowning deep inside your water
Drown in love and memories

the next song I love is the song by Collective Soul--Better now...That song is the song I play over and over..again on Ipod. Whenever I am having the bad day...we all know what those are...I listen to it.

Dance, turn it up...and realize you're getting better now! very positive song.

Better Now-Collective Soul

Oh I'm newly calibrated
All shiny and clean
I'm your recent adaptation
Time to redefine me

Let the word out I've got to get out
Oh I'm feeling better now
Break the news out I've got to get out
Oh I'm feeling better now

Oh I'm happy as Christmas
All wrapped to be seen
I'm your recent acquisition
Time to celebrate me

Let the word out I've got to get out
Oh I'm feeling better now
Break the news out I've got to get out
Oh I'm feeling better now

The world's done shaking
The world's done shaking
The world's done shaking me down

The world's done shaking
The world's done shaking
The world's done shaking me down


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got a new one! Just had a dealing with xwh...talk about why he can't go to son's first basketball practice...seems he is afraid our little seven year old WILL GET DESTRACTED from both of us being there...more like it, the ow/w is AFRAID MY XH WILL GET DISTRACTED because I am there and DS is there! Would be a little foggy family moment and she can have none of that! Jealous beeaaaaa-tch. So after dealing with a guy who is angry at HIS own choices, and me speaking gently to him...darn it! It is so amazing how if you speak to somebody in gentle tones and are calm and friendly how angry they allow themselves to get...AT THEMSELVES! Poor wittle wayward xh...he is not allowed to go to little son's basketball practice...he may get too distracted!

So here is the song I listen to...again IPOD favorite...also reminds me of when I speak to my xh and he chooses to get angry at himself while speaking on the phone to me...like my old counselor said..."when he points his finger at you...or accuses you...remember there are four fingers pointing back at him!"

Here it is....

Don't Tread ON ME! by 311...very cool song w/reggae undertones!

Before you're pointing at me
There is a possibility
You better turn that thing around
Nothing's comes easily
So don't you tread on me
Cuz I will knock you down

Some days it seems it's not worth it
The fight in me is all gone
And I'm not trying to be perfect
But just get one damn thing done
Before I lose control
I pick myself up off the floor

Before you're pointing at me
There is a possibility
You better turn that thing around
Nothing's comes easily
So don't you tread on me
Cause I will knock you down

Never come a day that’ll solve you
Consequently I could never leave you
In the shadow of those looming battleships
I love our canoe
I’m ready for the falls
And the still waters we will find our truth

Oh, there’s a clock in my head
And despite what it said
Another one on the wall
They don’t agree at all
And there's a schism in me
And despite what you see
You might see me as calm
But I go off like a bomb

Before you're pointing at me
There is a possibility
You better turn that thing around
Nothing's comes easily
So don't you tread on me
Cause I will knock you down

Oh, in the comfort of strangers
You don’t see the danger
Of just letting it flow
This I know

Before you're pointing at me
There is a possibility
You better turn that thing around
Nothing's comes easily
So don't you tread on me
Cause I will knock you down


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You need to listen to this song to get the FULL effect...

Henry was/is an underated genius...

Liar
- Henry Rollins

You think you're gonna to live your life alone
In darkness
And seclusion
Yeah I know
You've been out there
Tried to mix with those animals
And it just left you full of humiliated confusion
So you stagger back home
And wait for nothing
But the solitary refinement of your room spits you back out onto the street
And now you're desperate
And in need of human contact
And then
You meet me
And you whole world changes
Because everything I say is everything you've ever wanted to hear
So you drop all your defenses and you drop all your fears
And you trust me completely
I'm perfect
In every way
Cause I make you feel so strong and so powerful inside
You feel so lucky
But your ego obscures reality
And you never bother to wonder why
Things are going so well
You wanna know why?
Cause I'm a liar
Yeah I'm a liar
I'll tear your mind out
I'll burn your soul
I'll turn you into me
I'll turn you into me
Cause I'm a liar, a liar
A liar, a liar

I'll hide behind a smile
And understanding eyes
And I'll tell you things that you already know
So you can say
I really identify with you, so much
And all the time that you're needing me
Is just the time that I'm bleeding you
Don't you get it yet?
I'll come to you like an affliction
And I'll leave you like an addiction
You'll never forget me
You wanna know why?
Cause I'm a liar
Yeah I'm a liar
I'll rip your mind out
I'll burn your soul
I'll turn you into me
I'll turn you into me
Cause I'm a liar, a liar
Liar, liar, liar, liar

I don't know why I feel the need to lie
And cause you so much pain
Maybe it's something inside
Maybe it's something I can't explain
Cause all I do
Is mess you up and lie to you
I'm a liar
Oh, I am a liar

If you'll give me one more chance
I swear that I will never lie to you again
Because now I see the destructive power of a lie
They're stronger than truth
I can't believe I ever hurt you
I swear
I will never to you lie again, please
Just give me one more chance
I will never lie to you again
I swear
That I will never tell a lie
I will never tell a lie
No, no
Ha ha ha ha ha hah haa haa haa haaa
Sucker
Sucker!
Oh, sucker
I am a liar
Yeah, I am a liar
Yeah I like it
I feel good
Ohh I am a liar
Yeah
I lie
I lie
I lie
Oh, I lie
Oh I lie
I lie
Yeah
Ohhh I'm a liar
I lie
Yeah
I like it
I feel good
I'll lie again
And again
I'll lie again and again
And I'll keep lying
I promise

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Peter Gabriel - Secret World

I stood in this sunsheltered place
’til I could see the face behind the face
All that had gone before had left no trace

Down by the railway siding
In our secret world, we were colliding
All the places we were hiding love
What was it we were thinking of?

So I watch you wash your hair
Underwater, unaware
And the plane flies through the air
Did you think you didn’t have to choose it
That I alone could win or lose it
In all the places we were hiding love
What was it we were thinking of?

In this house of make believe
Divided in two, like adam and eve
You put out and I recieve

{chorus:}
Down by the railway siding
In our secret world, we were colliding
In all the places we were hiding love
What was it we were thinking of?

Oh the wheel is turning spinning round and round
And the house is crubling but the stairways stand

With no guilt and no shame, no sorrow or blame
Whatever it is, we are all the same

Making it up in our secret world [x3]
Shaking it up
Breaking it up
Making it up in our secret world

Seeing things that were not there
On a wing on a prayer
In this state of disrepair

[chorus]

Shh, listen...

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Fare Thee Well - Indigo Girls

Fare thee well my bright star
I watched your taillights blaze into nothingness
But you were long gone before I ever got to you
Before you blazed past this address
And now I think of having loved and having lost
But never know what it feels like to never love
Who can say what's better when my heart's become the cost
A mere token of a brighter jewel sent from above
Fare thee well my bright star
The vanity of youth the color of your eyes
And maybe if I’d fanned the blazing fire of your day-to-day
Or if I’d been older I’d been wise
Too thick the heat of those long summer evenings
For a cool evening I began to yearn
But you could only feed upon the things which feed a fire
Waiting to see if I would burn
Fare thee well my bright star
It was a brief brilliant miracle dive
That which I looked up to and i clung to for dear life
Had to burn itself up just to make itself alive
And I caught you then in your moment of glory
Your last dramatic scene against a night sky stage
With a moment so clear that it's as if you're still before me
My once in a lifetime star of an age
So fare thee well my bright star
Last night the tongues of fire circled me around
And this strange season of pain will come to pass
When the healing hands of autumn cool me down


Me, BS 37 Him, WXH (Noddy) 40 DD13, DD6 Married 14th August 1993 D/Day 2nd April 05 Noddy left us 3rd April 05, lives with OW (Omelette) 28 Divorce final 6th July '06. Time wounds all heels... - Groucho Marx ...except when it doesn't. - Graycloud
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Fix You
Coldplay

When you try your best but you don't succeed
When you get what you want but not what you need
When you feel so tired but you can't sleep
Stuck in reverse

And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

And high up above or down below
When you're too in love to let it go
But if you never try you'll never know
Just what you're worth

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

Tears stream down your face
When you lose something you cannot replace
Tears stream down your face
And I...

Tears stream down your face
I promise you I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down your face
And I...

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

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Just ran across the lyrics to this song...I didn't search the entire thread to see if it had already been posted, so forgive me in advance.

There is a great mix of the song as well - called the fade mix...

Plenty Lyrics
by Sarah Mclachlan

I looked into your eyes
they told me plenty
I already knew
you never felt a thing
so soon forgotten all that you do
in more than words I
tried to tell you
the more I tried I failed
I would not let myself believe
that you might stray
and I would stand by you
no matter what they'd say, I would have thought I'd be with you
until my dying day
until my dying day
I used to think my life
was often empty
a lonely space to fill
you hurt me more than
I ever would have imagined
you made my world stand still
and in that stillness
there was a freedom
I never felt before
I would not let myself believe
that you might stray
and I would stand by you
no matter what they'd say, I would have thought I'd be with you
until my dying day
until my dying day


BH (Me) 32, WW 38 no kids been together 14.5 yrs. married 9 D-day 12/5/04 D final 11/23/05, she got it all...I just wanted out. Done with her...selfishness is not a virtue
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Here's an oldie by the Bee Gees

Here am I one sad and lonely guy,
One shadow of the man I used to be.

Now it’s past, the love I thought would last;
You thought I had you chained,
And now you’re free.

I know it’s wrong but I’m still holding on,
Still praying you will soon come back to me.

But then you go, you let your feelings show;
You said I gave you pain, and now I see.

But baby, as you turn away
I will always think of what we had together.

Baby, this is just your way of breaking my heart.

And it’s easier to say goodbye,
Making me fall, making me try, try to make
You stay as you turn away.

Now you’re gone, this road I walk upon is just
Another place where I can hide.

I’m still your man, there’s proof of who I am;
Except without your love I’m dead inside.

But baby, as you turn away
I will always think of what we had together.

Baby, this is just your way of breaking my heart.

And it’s easier to say goodbye,
Making me fall, watching me try, try to make
You stay as you turn away.

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And one for the BS's who have had about enough, like me
Aaliyah I Refuse

This Is Where I’ve Got To Draw The Line
Cause I Refuse To Let You Think You Can Play With My Mind
Always Seems That You Think That I’m Blind
Causes There Always Certain Times When Your Hard To Find
Your On The Go, I’m On The Go, Were On The Go
I Can’t Catch You No More, Can’t See You No More
And It No Longer Can Be Ignored
Cause At Once Upon A Time It Was You I Adored
You Disappeared And Left Me Here, Out In The Cold
And The Absence Of You Is Hurting My Soul
Didn’t Know There Was An End Of The Road
It Was So Easy For You Just To Let It All Go

And I Refuse,
I Refuse To Have One More Sleepless Night
I Refuse,
I Refuse To Let A Tear Fall From My Eye
I Refuse,
I Refuse To Continue To Try
I Felt Like I Would Die, If I Could Breakdown And Cry
And I Refuse,
I Refuse To Let You Walk Back Through That Door
I Refuse,
I Refuse To Let You Hurt Me Anymore
And I Refuse,
I Refuse To Continue To Ignore
The Fact I Fell To The Floor, The Day You Walked Out My Door

And I Refuse
No Way Baby I Can’t Take It No More
And I Refuse
No Way Baby I Can’t Take It No More
And I Refuse
No Way , But I Refuse
To Take It Anymore

Remember When I Told You I Could Feel The Change
You Don’t Touch Me The Same, Don’t Hold Me The Same
No, I Don’t Want You To Take All The Blame
Cause I Know I Had Those Moments When I Caused The Pain
This Back And Forth Just Like A War With You And Me
See We Both Disagree, Have We Ever Agreed?
This Is Nothing Like I Thought It Would Be
Was It All Just A Dream? Was It Ever In My Reach?

And I Refuse,
I Refuse To Have One More Sleepless Night
I Refuse,
I Refuse To Let A Tear Fall From My Eye
I Refuse,
I Refuse To Continue To Try
I Felt Like I Would Die, If I Could Breakdown And Cry
And I Refuse,
I Refuse To Let You Walk Back Through That Door
I Refuse,
I Refuse To Let You Hurt Me Anymore
And I Refuse,
I Refuse To Continue To Ignore
The Fact I Fell To The Floor, The Day You Walked Out My Door

It Was Your Way
Or It Was No Way
And I Couldn’t Live That Way
It Was Our Call
Then It Was Your Call
Cause I Gave You My All And All

And I Refuse,
I Refuse To Have One More Sleepless Night
I Refuse,
I Refuse To Let A Tear Fall From My Eye
I Refuse,
I Refuse To Continue To Try
I Felt Like I Would Die, If I Could Breakdown And Cry
And I Refuse,
I Refuse To Let You Walk Back Through That Door
I Refuse,
I Refuse To Let You Hurt Me Anymore
And I Refuse,
I Refuse To Continue To Ignore
The Fact I Fell To The Floor, The Day You Walked Out My Door

No Way I Can’t Take It Baby
No Way I Can’t Take It Baby
No Way, But I Refuse
To Take It Anymore

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Alter Bridge "Find the Real"

Find The Real

Stuck in the middle I burrow inside
Back to the cradle
Away from the burdens of all my crimes
Before it’s fatal
My past has found me the truth’s come out
All is remembered
With no place to fall but straight down
I must surrender

Well it seems I’ve
Finally thought of everything
I wanna love
I wanna feel
Find peace
Find the real

There’s a face I put on all my life
The face of an angel
But I look in the mirror only to find
The face of a stranger
And with all I’ve taken I hunger for more
Cause I’m selfish
And all I’m left with is a crown of thorns
And I’m helpless

Well it seems I’ve
Finally thought of everything
I wanna love
I wanna feel
Find peace
Find the real

I’ll trade these lies for something right
I’ll kill what hurts with something pure
I will be redeemed so I can breathe again

Well it seems I’ve
Finally thought of everything
I wanna love
I wanna feel
Find peace
Find the real
Well it seems I’ve
Finally thought of everything
I wanna love
I wanna feel
Find peace
Find the real


43yr old FWH who has rediscovered morality Divorced: 03 February 2006 XW: My threads say it all "Well, I guess if a person never quit when the going got tough, they wouldn't have anything to regret for the rest of their life..."
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"This Grudge" Alanis Morissette

14 years 30 minutes 15 seconds I've held this grudge
11 songs 4 full journals, thoughts of punishment I've expended

not in contact not a letter such communication telepathic
you've been vilified, used as fodder, you deserve a piece of every record

but who's it hurting now?
Who's the one that's stuck?
Who's it torturing now, with an antique knot in her stomach

I want to be big and let go of this grudge that's grown old
All this time i've not known how to rest this bygone
I want to be soft and resolved clean of slate and released
I want to forgive for the both of us

Like an abandoned house dusty-covered furniture still intact
If I visit it now, do I simply re-live it somehow gratuitous

But who's still aching now?
Who's tired of her own voice?
Who's it weighing down with no gift from time of said healing

I want to be big and let go of this grudge that's grown old
All this time i've not known how to rest this bygone
I want to be soft and resolved clean of slate and released
I want to forgive for the both of us

Maybe as i cut the cord veils will lift from my eyes
Maybe as i lay this to rest dead weight off my shoulders will rise

Here i sit, much determined ever ill-equipped to draw this curtain
How this has entertained, validated and has served me greatly ever the victim

But who's done whining now?
Who's ready to put down
This load I've carried longer than I had cared to remember

I want to be big and let go of this grudge that's grown old
For the life of me I've not known how to rest this bygone
I want to be soft and resolved clean of slate and released
I want to forgive for the both of us


43yr old FWH who has rediscovered morality Divorced: 03 February 2006 XW: My threads say it all "Well, I guess if a person never quit when the going got tough, they wouldn't have anything to regret for the rest of their life..."
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