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I know there is to be no love talk in Plan A but it is ok to give compliments like cooking , hair style, you look nice today etc......
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Why no love talk? I thought the purpose of Plan A is to fulfill your S's EN's. If love talk is one of their top EN's, then do it!!
What are the three top EN's you are fulfilling for your S?
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absolutely do those things! but just don't go overboard. say them honestly but strategically.
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I thought the post from ARK reads no love talk
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I think love talk is fine as long as there are no expectations on your part and your S is accepting of it and does not consider it a LB'er.
My problem early on in plan A was I would "love talk" in an effort to get a specific reaction and I was almost always disappointed.
Best of luck and always remember that IT'S A GREAT DAY TO BE ALIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Be careful with the affection.
In my situation my WS is going thru withdrawal and whenever I mention love or affection she feels more guilty. I think she is fighting depression so please be careful what you say. You'd think the WS would need to hear how much you care, but in a crazy way that just makes them feel more lost, confused, or depressed.
So be careful, I'm in Plan A and I'm trying to say things more with a point or a goal in mind..not just I love you's or you're so beautiful.
Take Care
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