I'm new here and I'm really struggling. I've been married 7 years to a wonderful man, the love of my life. Last summer I had a brief affair with a close mutual friend. It ended quickly, but we both stayed friends with this person. Big mistake I know, we are no longer in contact with him at all.

My husband found some old e-mail I had sent the other man. This all happened 6 weeks ago. At first I tried to lie and cover up my mess, but I eventually came clean with everything. I cried, begged, pleaded for him to give me a chance to prove how much I love him and how dedicated to saving our marriage I really am. I know I've made a mistake, a mistake I will never make again.

My husband was at a lawyers office starting the divorce process the very next day. He just served me with separation papers last weekend. I asked for time, he refused. He said he gave me time, it took me two weeks to tell him all the details of my affair, and he is still made it took me so long. He is hurt and angy, and his pride was crushed. I understand his actions.

What I want to know is what can I do now. I would really like some advice. I know most people here are dedicated to saving their marriages, and most were not the offenders, but this is good, I want your opinions. Don't worry about being blunt, tell me the truth. The truth is my friend now, I'm done living a lie. Is there anyone her who was in my husbands shoes when they first found out about their spouses affair? Did you eventually try to work things out with you cheating spouse? If so, what changed your mind to save your marriage? Thanks!