HI me and my H have been doing pretty good lately we've been in recovery for about a year now with a few contacts between hhim and OW. well they still work together. he has been trying desperatly since april (and when they contacted again) to find a new job just no tmuch luck in his area of employment!.

well today some girl answered his phone (sounded like OW) in his cubicale. he wasnt there he was somewhere else and his cubicale has teh office fax machine etc. but when he got to the phone he hung up rudly when i said bye i love u. so when we talked again I asked who answered his phone he said none of my business (he was mad at me) so i said fine i'm calling the OW. b/c i just cant stop beliveing thers still contact!!!

he left work went to his car called me. swore theres no contact. he swears after last time (around april) that she just never talked to him again (i dont belive it) he chanbed his office phone and i would think she'd try to contact adn find out why etc. especially sinc ethey were still saying (at least she was) i love you.

he says he wants to quit so bad he has his papers in his desk ready to hand in just needs another job. he said part of the reason is her. but he never tells me anything and i have a vivid imagination.

so i guess my question is is it possiable that he could be workign with her and not having contunied contact or being truthful. i just worry that they have lunch together or what not. how about him not wanting me to call her ? does thie mean anything? i just dont know what to belive >? he swears he wants to be with me and that he isnt talking to her but he could be lying i am lost> any ideas?
tara

The fact that he got angry and then called you from somewhere besides his office makes me suspicious. Time for one of them to quit.

Is he seriously looking for another job, or just kinda looking?

well its not so much that he wen toutisde to call that bothers me he has done that in the past bc he is a supervisor and people are ocming up to him 24:7 to ask questions we cant have a "real" talk during that. i'm just wondeing if i should still be susupous or take his word i'm not sure what the answer is now. id otn know if i should be in plan a? as for him finding work. he works 13 hour shifts so i find the jobs print out applications etc and he fills them out i make sure they get sent etc

Yep. You still gotta be in Plan A. Have your read Ark's post on how you should act?

i've read the post but i didnt think i was still in plan A since he had assured me he has no contact with OW. how long do we stay in plan a?