Hi mylife... you sound just like I do. Just yesterday I told dh there was some serious trust issues I was having with our recovery... reason being is that he can be contacting her all day long on his email or calling her from his cell and I'd never know it. His cell phone is a buisness one so we don't get the bills (nor can I gain access to them, without rasing suspicion) and he is too smart and I know he'd clear the call logs on his cell if he or she did make contact via their cell phone..... So there really is no way for me to find out if I wanted to, other then asking him straight out, which is a LB for him. AUGH! SO where do we go from here? He told me that I just need to believe him when he says that he's severed all ties with her.... (well, I've heard that before). I can tell he's changed and he's done so much for me and our marriage in the last two weeks.... but I just can't seem to let my guard down either or quit being so suspicious- I think I'm just to dang scared to get hurt again. But you would think if wh was serious about working on our marraige that he's be completely open to getting coipies of his cell phone bills, if I asked, right?- but I can't help wondering if that will really satisfy my supsciouns?
I wish wh would go to counceling, but that isn't an option... he won't go.
I'm sorry, I guess I wasn't much help... but I just wanted you to know you're not alone....
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BS 27
WH 30
Married: 8 years
Children: 3 and 1.5 and one on the way
d-day (EA) 6/7/04
Recommence NC 6/28/04
<small>[ July 09, 2004, 03:31 PM: Message edited by: Doing His will ]</small>