Can you tell I can't sleep this evening?... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Well when first our problems hit the surface SF was a thing of the past.... now it it is 1 month past dday (WH EA), and 2 weeks past NC.... he's told me he truelly does love me and wants me and all that other junk... but that he has hardly any sex drive. Although he really does show affection a lot of the time (the hugs and cuddling in bed, hand holding...etc), more so then ever... which is good and all..... but.... His reason being he is just emotionally drained from all the hurt and pain he's caused me, possible repurcussion it's had on our kids (and our unborn baby), the pain he's caused OW... all that. Another reason he said was that he feels like he doesn't deserve anything.... that he feels like he only deserves bad. I tried to build him up... because I truelly believe that is just the devil trying to workin in on him. I've forgiven him (I've told him so), I know he's handed it over to God and HE's forgiven him... so HE nor I will hold it against him and torture him with it (Granted God will not remember the sin like I will but you know that is a different story).

Is this all normal for a FWS? Maybe it's withdraw? Still I can't help feeling so unwanted still. What a mess. Our roles are so reveresed here in this "happy" household....lol.... gees!

<small>[ July 10, 2004, 07:14 AM: Message edited by: Doing His will ]</small>

Doing His Will - Yes, it's normal. Guilt plays with the mind. Don't think for one minute that men don't need emotional "good feelings" before they are capable of "wanting sex" with their wife.

The two of you need to be spending more time on the Recovery Forum, since your ARE in recovery.

For now, let me give you a few things to read, and perhaps your husband will also read them.

1Cor.7:3-5
Eph. 5:22-32

Forgive? Trust? Really? Has anything been learned in the past year?

Remember the key ingredient is patience. Wait on the Lord and each of you commit to being obedient to His commands regardless of how you might be feeling at any given moment.

God bless.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by ForeverHers:
<strong> Doing His Will - Yes, it's normal.

1Cor.7:3-5
Eph. 5:22-32

Remember the key ingredient is patience. Wait on the Lord and each of you commit to being obedient to His commands regardless of how you might be feeling at any given moment.

</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thank you FH! I really needed this. Just one of those evenings where things seemed to go wrong and then this.

Our God is an awesome God and He's become the center and focus of our marriage. Thank you for the references, I've refered to that chapter God knows how many times, and each time (of course) it always puts things in prospective- Praise God!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />