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I've been posting here the past few weeks and venting a lot and it helps some. I've also gotten some good advice but in order to get the advice I've had to say things that I think my WH would be upset if he knew I was telling them to people or even that he would find upsetting to read himself. I guess I'm in Plan A so I'm not telling him these things in person but is anyone else worried that their WS will read these posts and become even more distant? I've asked him to read the site because I thought it might be helpful but I'm really worried that if he reads these things he'll think I'm attacking him in some way or betraying our trust even more.
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II,
Your H will think most of your effort you put towards you or your M will be offensive to him. You can remove your posts or change your name.
Why not invite him to read the books and concept info? Take the EN questionnaire together?
Do phone counseling with Steve @ MB from the comfort of your own home?
L.
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My H seems to be deep in the fog. He refuses to do anything that has anything that would make it seem like we have ever or ever will have a relationship.
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Like O says, it would be better if your WH was unaware of what you talk about here. You need to vent and seek advice and support. Some of your vents would be big LBs, and your efforts to do the right things to heal yourself and make him return to you may seem manipulative. They are, but that doesn't make them wrong. Taking the advice here will change you for the better. Best to you,
GC
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