This is the day I have been dreading. I know many of you have gone through this and told me to do something special for myself.

I'm trying to treat today as if it was any other day, its not working.

I haven't heard from him. I don't know if I should be happy or sad about that. I have such mixed emotions.

I feel angry if he does call and sad if he does not. Is that strange? I'm trying my best to be in Plan B. I'm not going to contact him at all today, and I didn't even send a card.

If he does call later on tonight, what do I do? What do I say? I don't know why I'm worrying about this, since he might not call at all. I'm just trying to prepare myself, problem is I don't know what to expect. I don't want to set myself up to be disappointed or do something I might later regret.

I never thought this day of July 15th will bring me so much pain instead of joy and love I usually feel on my anniversary. This is the day I promised to love him forever, for better and for worse. I never thought he would be sharing this day with someone else.

I know this day will pass, but I feel so alone.

My anniversary was in March, and WH left me some flowers, and a card. Then he proceeded to spend the evening with the OW. I think an anniversary is going to be a hard day no matter what you do.

Sorry, I know that is not very helpful.

My anniversary was last month and WH and I went to dinner and for a nice walk. I thought it was a start in the right direction, but now a month later and nothing has changed. But you will get through this day, just like you have gotten through everyday before this. Just remember tomorrow is another day and hang in there.

Mine is on 29 July. I'm starting to think about what should I do? Anything? This question has probably been covered 1000 times. If in plan A, on your anniversary, you should ______________.

I have no idea what to do. I thought I might record a song or two (better hurry), put the CD in a cool metal box (10th anniversary gift is tin or something), wrap it up with a card inside and a page from that day's newspaper with something nice on it, and then hang on to it.

GC

believer:

You still have those flowers? Maybe HD2 can borrow them... ...so long as she re2rns them in time for you 2 use next march??

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Sorry 2 make light. Most people advise not acknowledging anniversaries during plan B.

-ol' 2long

Thanks!!!

I haven't heard from him yet, don't know if I am going to either.

I just order myself a pizza and I'm sitting back enjoying the Mets game. My favorite team by the way. They better win, I need something to cheer about.

Graycloud,
When I was in Plan A I made a Cd for his birthday, and he loved it. I thought about doing again for our anniversary, but now I'm in Plan B its a no-no. So I made one for myself.

I was also thinking about buying myself an anniversary gift. I think I deserve one.

You deserve an anniversary gift. I say buy it!

I just was going over my bank statement online. It was bad enough my WH took out most of our money in our business account a week after he left. He promised me he wasn't going to touch it. I let it go, since he doesn't have any money.

Now to find out we have a zero balance. He withdrawal the rest yesterday. Happy Anniversary. He transfer the money to another account. I just called the bank and told them transfer it back. They told me I will have to call back tomorrow, but she said I might not be able to do it. I should of taken the rest of money out when I had the chance, but I knew that would look bad on me if we ever had to go to court.

I know the OW likes money, something my WH doesn't have but his family does. The OW will never be accepted into his family. My MIL made that perfectly clear to me. My MIL hates liars and the OW continues to lie to her to save face. She thought she had my in-laws caught up in her little web, guess what that didn't workout quite as plan.

Maybe he will used the rest of the money to go to dinner with the OW on our anniversary. He doesn't give me one dime, in fact the OW told him since I make more money I would have to pay him allimony. I wonder what other surprises he has in store for me.

I just wanted to make it through today.

Less than an hour left of my anniversary. Haven't heard from WH. As I said before don't know if I'm glad or sad about that.

My team just won in eleven innings. So at least I have something to cheer about today. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Well you've gotten thru this day. God bless you.

I made it. I couldn't believe in the last two hours of our anniversary to find out he cleaned out our joint business account, really got me angry. Of all the days to do so.

What happen to the loving, wonderful and honest man I married. This is not him. I know we talk about the fog he is in, but I also believe he is being malipulated in his actions by the OW.

Even in the fog, doesn't he know right from wrong. Maybe right now I am the enemy to him, I can accept that, but to purposely empty our accounts without telling me, that is just wrong.

I believe (I still haven't given up hope) if this ever comes to a D, any checks made out to the both of us, he will have to pay half to me. Believe me, I will ask for half, even though I make more money then him.

With all that is happening, I don't know what to expect next, I don't know this guy he has become. I'm really short on cash, since I'm paying for all the bills and maintaining the house. I should find an attorney to protect myself.

The OW is shrewd and malipulating. She is still a client of mine, I can't wait to drop her, there is a contract involved. She already tried to discredit me because of her wrong doings. It backfired, my boss believes me, plus originally it was her word against mine, until I did some investigating, especially old emails that prove me right. She got caught than tried to turn the blame on me. What kills me even though I never really trusted her, I busted my butt off for her as a client.

The OW even tried to woo my in-laws. Before d-day, she was trying to be perfect soon to be daughter-in-law. Going shopping with my MIL, going to lunch and dinner with them, trying to help plan my SIL's baby shower, sending gifts, etc.. She thought she had them in her pocket. She thought she could just step right in and replace me, guess what that backfired too.

Even her H filed for divorce didn't want to work on their marriage, what does that say about her.

Right now she has my WH. Very much in debt WH, I still love him, I am angry especially hurt by him, but at least I have been true to myself.
Our relationship was never based on lies and malipulations. It looks like their relationship is still based on lies and malipulations.

They are not going to take me down. I can still put my head up high because I know I'm an injured bird, but guess what I'm going fly higher than I ever did before. With or without him.

I just feel so alone and abandoned but at least I still have my self-respect. I'm not going to play games. If he comes back fine, if he does not well I'll move on. Right now I still have hope and I'm not giving up, even though I can't do anything right now to save my marriage except work on me.

I'm lucky I have a wonderful job and in-laws. Also, a beautiful dog too, she was howling last night, I know she can feel my pain, and I know she misses my WH. I have been giving her extra attention. She makes sure I don't stay in bed all day and mope.

God has blessed me and he will get me through this.