Not sure who kept up with it, but in my Dead Zone thread, I talked about the time a BS is alone while the WS is either with the OP (as in my case) or just out, it really doesn't matter.
I feel pretty bad during those times, and I called it the 'Dead Zone' (sorry Stephen King).

Well, Someone reminded me (B-trayed) that even though we all feel that time and that pain, we should call it somehing else. The first suggestions were from B-trayed:

1. "SELF IMPROVEMENT ZONE" or
2. "TIME OUT for DOING STUFF I LIKE ZONE"
3. "It's great being away from the foggy lady zone"
4. "TIME to CATCH up with good friends ZONE"

Well, I like them all. How about:

"Happy Zone" - kinda mushy, but last night while in the zone, I had a normal night and it felt great, spent time with the kids, indulged in a pastime and worked on self improvement. It was a happy time. I just don't know if Happy Zone is quite right though.

Lets hear it people.

Recharging Zone

Rejuvenating Zone

Reenergizing Zone


My 2 cents, you can leave my change on the table. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

kyellow4, you get no change, cause the lines are good ones.

How about:
"Living zone" Kind of the opposite of the way I feel (dead) during the time. Has an optomistic spin to it.

What else ya got?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"Living zone" Kind of the opposite of the way I feel (dead) during the time. Has an optomistic spin to it </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I like that one.

My H would probably choose,

Going insane zone

Thinking too much zone

feeling insecure zone

I would like him to be thinking,

she is earning my trust zone

believing in her zone

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The Me-Zone (sounds Latin, doesn't it?) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Living Zone was what I immediately thought of. It really IS the living zone... and the more you LIVE, in that zone and all the others, the better your world will be.

Your wife's world will still be a mess, but YOUR world will be much better.

And I have one question, having read your recent posts and debated about what to say to you. Why are you not in Plan B?

I am going to go to plan B soon I think. I have to move in a couple of months, and if she does not come with me, it will be pretty easy. With the extreme exception of our kids. This is gonna get REAL ugly.

I just found out that the Pg is going along fine (there was some hormoal issues that gave us a scare, but it is all good).

I want my wife out of my house. I want her to see what she is chosing. I want her to realize it is a mistake and come back willing to try. But I do not think she will until it is to late.

We meet with the MC on Saturday at 9:00am, and I am gonna loose it. I am so sick of being used.

Take your fog and go away. The best thing I can think of to happen is for her to have no place to go, and up with him and hating him then coming back to me. I doubt it is going to happen. I am changing from thinking my M is going to make it to knowing that I must make it. If she is in my life as my partner, great. If not, great.

Do or do not, there is no try.

As much as I hate/love her now, I still do not want to hurt her. After what she has done and continues to do, I have nothing left to give her but the door. It will stay open for some time, but not very long.

She has been reduced from the mother of my children whom I loved to the mother of my children whom I distrust. She needs to go.

CTH - Good on you Bro!! It's much more fun when you look at it from a new angle.
Whilst I applaud your decision to get on with your life I would recommend that you get yourself some legal advice.
You really need to speak to a good attorney to see what options you have and the best way for you to progress forward. I would strongly suggest that you hold onto your thoughts until you have a legal opinion and hopefully some advice. You have waited this long for WS to come to her senses, you should make an effort to wait a couple of days longer until you have the legal advice you need. Good luck friend, we are all rooting for you!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />