AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAIIIIEEEEEEEEEEYYYAAAAAAAHHHHH
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My official, kickboxing noise that I make, which also applies to disrespectfull comments from other people. I am the BS, and when I decided to remain in my marriage, you surely have no trouble believing that everyone had an opinion. Family, friends, co-workers..and I think the neighbors dog gave me a funny look [winks]. My position, is that to be disrespectfull to my husband is to be disrespecfull to me by proxy. So basically, anyone who felt the need to say something nasty about my husband to me, got the pleasure of dealing with me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> . This isn't as much fun as it sounds like. I had been a bridesmaid in a friends wedding, when my husband was disinvited, I bowed out as well...when my mother [very close to me] couldn't contain her anger on my behalf I cut contact with her until she was able...this really throws a damper on my venting, ya know?! This is not all loss..not all sacrifice..my husband knew he was at fault, knew he didn't deserve my loyalty..how much did it gladden his heart [as well as heap coals on his head] that his most fierce defender, was also his BS? I do not now, nor will I ever defend what he has done..but while he is my husband he belongs to me, and I protect what is mine. I expect the same in return.
So, my question to you is...why is your wife allowing this sabotage? It has been my experience that people can and do keep a civil tongue in their head when their efforts are fruitless. If they are continuing to disdain you and your marriage, why are they in the picture? There comes a time to draw a line and boldly declare.. bugs will be squashed!
Cheers--Noodle