Folks - I have been taking the advice of many people on this site and trying to live by a good plan A when possible. I am not sure if it is as a result of the advice / Plan A'ing, but it appears that over the last few days that WW may be peeking through the fog and has actually been much more like a wife / friend to me. Whilst I am not reading too much into this as I know it could change (has in the past), she does seem better since our last heart to heart. We still live together and do things together on the weekends. My problem is that I have been invited to a family function none of whom supposedly know what is happening. I was for the first time thinking of not attending the function. Do you think this is a good idea, or should I make the effort to attend?

<small>[ August 05, 2004, 06:52 PM: Message edited by: B-trayed ]</small>

I jst asked the same question and was told I should go and enjoy. I would say go and wear a smile and be as freindly as you can. Good luck!!!

I would attend and have a good time. You should be in Plan A, and showing what a good spouse you can be.

Yes, go. I went to a fishing weekend with all the men in my WW's family just a few days after she said she wanted to split up. I cried for pretty much the entire four-hour drive up there, spent a couple of days with the men in the family (only a few knew, and all took me aside and gave me a keep-your-chin-up-we're-on-your-side), and I cried for the entire drive home. But while I was there I held my head up, and even if this D goes through, those guys will always remember that I had the guts to do that in the middle of the sh*tstorm I was in. Still am in.

Thinking of this is freaking me out, because I feel I may never see my in-laws again, and they were like my own family. Ow.

So yes, go to the function, and be amazing.

GC

Thanks All - I guess it makes sense to go and have a good time. Doesn't serve any purpose not to put my best "foot" forward and present myself in the best light. I don't need to be setting a precedent of non attendance either.