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Well I am 36 years old and married to my wife for 14 years. we started going out young. I did something stupid and asked here of any boyfriends before me .The answer, there was one then I demanded she tell me what happened during the realtionship she told me and that was that. But now a month later it hurts and it feels like she cheated on me.
Why am I feeling this way and is it stupid to feel this way.
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Mike
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Yes.
It seems like you are searching for reasons to be angry and resentful.
This was before you met.
I don't know if you had a prior history before her...if you did then your are applying an unfair double standard.
If you shared your histories early on in your relationship and she lied by ommission then her being honest now should be commended not condemned. You want to keep encouraging her honesty. She may have matured in 14 yrs.
Have you?
If this relationship occurred prior to yours you really have a responsibility to forgive her and put it to rest.
Read about the Four Rules of Protection on this site.
Work on Building your marriage and not tearing it down.
<small>[ August 06, 2004, 01:06 PM: Message edited by: Trix ]</small>
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Thanks for your reply and advise.I will try to use what u gave me to help the situation . i like the rules of protection.
Mike
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