If you have been following my thread at all...

I am shaking so badly, that I can hardly type!

Went to WH apartment on Friday.... you know, he supposedly broke it off with OW two weeks ago, and said he would give her cell phones back to her... only found the old adultery phone at the apartment (it's the one I took when I found it, then gave it back, knowing OW gave WH a second cell when the first went missing)...the one that was working was not there. Looked everywhere, couldn't find it.

Well, WH is up at the town shindig, so I called the number of the working adultery phone just now (thought I would see if there were any messages from OW on it). Guess who answered it? WH!!!

The things that come to mind right now are not legal to post here, so I won't utter them.

I am going up there, stand in the back, and call that number again, and see what happens.

Good idea? He is so busted! Plan B here I come.

K

K,

I'm sorry. Sooo sorry. Now I think you need to do some deep breathing exercises. So you can clear your mind.

Your next steps will require clear thinking and a very calm heart.

Start typing a plan B letter. Don't send it, just type it up. ok?

L.

Hey K, you already knew he had lied to you, so this is nothing new. I wouldn't call him at all. You are too angry to talk to him right now. You don't EVEN want to lovebust right before you go into Plan B. Just vent to us, ok?

And when you get it out of your system, sit down this afternoon and start working on your Plan B letter.

Okay...okay...

I'm calming down now. Will work on Plan B letter.

I am thinking of including some conditions of reconciliation in the letter:

Close your apartment, and move back home.

Go to MC with me...I will pay for you to talk to Steve Harley if you want to.

SEND NC letter to OW... I must approve the letter first, and will mail it myself.

Do these sound too demanding?

I still want to let him know that I know he has the adultery phone... but don't want to cause a scene... really I do, but...

Vent? @@##$%#^ &*^%%%&*^ ^$%#&**^%$* (^%$#%%#$%^&*%@!@#@ @!###$) _*)_^%$$@!# ! @##$%!!!

Please insert all your favorite foul words! My mind is reeling with words!! K

Girl, are you a sailor!????? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

K, generally, you don't need to get that detailed in the PBL. Just tell him when he has ended his affair with the OW that you can discuss possible reconcilation. THEN, when he ends contact with her and calls you, you can then give him your parameters for reconcilation. [yours are very GOOD parameters, btw]

Just be prepared for him to jump through hoops to get you to break your word and talk to him. They can't stand it! So he will try and con you into talking to him again while he CONTINUES contact with the OW. He will say he needs your "support" to end contact and he is "willing" to try to end it. Don't fall for it!

So brace yourself for every trick in the book to get you to relax your boundaries so he can get his k72172 fix AND keep the OW on the line.

<small>[ August 15, 2004, 02:16 PM: Message edited by: MelodyLane ]</small>

Mel, your'e the greatest!

No, I'm not a sailor, but coming from a family of sailors, I do know quite a bit of "Sailorese"!

Even though I don't normally talk like that, a few have popped out of my mouth this morning!

Have been working on Plan B letter... will post it in a new thread.

@@!# $%@&^ &&*( %#$@%^#@! +%$!@#&%$@ $#@ ^%((*&^%%^ %#$#@%&*( *&@@@!!!!

I think I've just developed Turrett's (sp?) syndrome!!! Darn the luck!!!

k- I sympathize with you. Get your plan B letter going. It does no good to go crazy, believe me. I have had several episodes of insanity, and it is just a waste, and makes you feel bad.