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Im in Real deep pain!!!! #1174289 08/19/04 07:07 AM
Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 78 D deeppain Member
deeppain Member D Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 78	I gathered all the evidence ( phone recordings) and started to listen to them and hearing my W talking to two men and sexually pleasing them on the phone... Which this is also a PA too with them b/c they talk about what sexual things they did when they were together... I cant take this anymore " IT'S KILLING ME AND MY CHILDREN" ..... Last night she saw my sad face and that I was quiet and upseted her, she told me " WHY ARE WE STASYING IN A FARSE RELATIONSHIP.." and them she went out. forsure to see the OM???? I feel I got to expose this A right NOW and just take what it comes.....she may stay or she may go i dont knoe but this pain is killing me.... She was mensioning she is scared of the consiquences it will bring if I ever found out.... I dont know what to do... please HELP ME!!!

Re: Im in Real deep pain!!!! #1174290 08/19/04 07:19 AM
Joined: May 2004 Posts: 3,800 K kyellow4 Member
kyellow4 Member K Joined: May 2004 Posts: 3,800	{{{{DEEPPAIN}}}} Why is it exactly you are not exposing her??? How painful for you. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> You have not confronted her on any level??? I would advise for you not to listen to the tapes, but that would seem an almost impossible task. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> KY

Re: Im in Real deep pain!!!! #1174291 08/19/04 07:44 AM
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MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Did you tell the OM's wives yet? I would get busy laying out a plan here, dp, to end these affairs. First start with calling the wives involved and then maybe her workplace. Call your family and her family. Start squeezing her to help get her to her senses.

Re: Im in Real deep pain!!!! #1174292 08/19/04 07:59 AM
Joined: May 2004 Posts: 7,093 W weaver Member
weaver Member W Joined: May 2004 Posts: 7,093	Deappain, Have you been going through this all of these months still? You were posting when I first came months ago. I believe you were worried about the tapes being legal back then. This is WAY too long for you to be still suffering in the exact same scenario. Stand up guy, get busy with a solid plan to end this nonsense. You can't take too much more of this before you crack. Nobody could.

Re: Im in Real deep pain!!!! #1174293 08/19/04 10:16 AM
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deeppain Member D Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 78	You are right, it is to long..... I found out in Canada if the phone is in your name you can tap the phones for a reason but cannot be used for black male to get money out of it...... At this moment I dont care what kind of trouble I can get, thats the only evidence I have that can nail her with the two men and letting the two men hear each other to what she is doing???? I just dont understand why I am holding back, it may have been the tapes that I was worried and wish I had pictures but I have three kids and I can just leave them and she knows that..... Any ideas on a plan, please feel free to suggest... Thanks.

Re: Im in Real deep pain!!!! #1174294 08/19/04 10:39 AM
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kyellow4 Member K Joined: May 2004 Posts: 3,800	A plan, hmmm.... Have you confronted her??? You have plenty of hard evidence. There is no denying what you have. Expose to OMen's significant others Confront your W, Lay out your plan to save your M to her (exposure, to everybody involved, NC, radical honesty, blah, blah blah) confront the men of your knowledge of their A with your W, and expose her to both men, I wouldn't reveal your source, unless you absolutely have to. Pictures would be great, but what are you waiting for??? You have the tapes, you listen to her, you must know where she is meeting them. Take some pictures, or have somebody else take them. I don't know how you have been living this way. You poor man. I'm so sorry. Get the ball rolling, you know what to do, you have the proof, now MOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! KY

Re: Im in Real deep pain!!!! #1174295 08/19/04 01:39 PM
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deeppain Member D Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 78	Thanks for your comments.... I do not have pictures....and it's hard for me to get them...... The tapes are not enough????? I am also wodering other things too... Like how should I approach this, what kind of attitude....and after confronting her should i still sleep in our bed???????? Thanks.

Re: Im in Real deep pain!!!! #1174296 08/20/04 07:55 AM
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deeppain Member D Joined: Jan 2004 Posts: 78	I am very frustrated this morning..... I hear the remainder of the tape and they were talking about where they see themselves living.... We just bought a new house that will be ready in November and they see themselves living their... She is planning to throw me out and he lives their with my children!!!!! What is the OM going to live their too....... This is [censored] up and she really needs help... I know some of you are going to tell this is fog talk but you are also right this must be exposed NOW!!!!

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