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WAT, Since you asked how I was doing, I thought I'd tell you......... Read my sig line......OR read my post in Recovery. Orchid, sorry, I've been a little busy lately (with a little thing like a hurricane) for emailing you. I will get around to it (& we can discuss details) soon! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> God Bless,
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lupo!!
That is great news!! Congratulations.
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What??? Engaged? To exH? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> hehe. Wow!!!! I'm going to read your post in Recovery!!! What a WEEK I've had. I have moved in to stay with my nephews while their mom (my sister) goes to an alcoholic rehab treatment center for 4 weeks. WHEW! I'm so proud of her for making a decision. What a huge step. and what a HUGE change for me... going from no kids to being responsible for 3 teenage boys for a month! So, I had a little time to myself tonight, and thought I'd pop in to MB, and WOW! Look at YOU!!! Well, lemme go read.... HUGS!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <small>[ August 28, 2004, 08:45 PM: Message edited by: Faith1 ]</small>
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OMG Lupo!
Congrats honey!
How did this all occur? Can you offer us details?
Love,
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I can tell you how it occured!! All those dark nights with no TV and candlelight dinners!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Congrats lupolady,,,,,and keep us updated!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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ENGAGED?!?!?! As in ........????? Ring on da' finger? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Wow. Ok, spill the details. CA and HI needs to know. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I knew that hurricane was strong but wow! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Hugz hon. We will definitely be chatting laters. I gotta move 1st, so then the time difference w/b 6 hours. Geeze! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> I gotta call you in my sleep. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> Aloha, L.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Orchid: <strong> ENGAGED?!?!?! As in ........????? Ring on da' finger? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Wow. Ok, spill the details. CA and HI needs to know. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I knew that hurricane was strong but wow! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">O, As usual, you crack me up! YUP, engaged, as in "....ring on da' finger...."Well, I don't actually have it yet.........he went back to his apt. to pack it up, then bring all his stuff - and his cat. He is going to get me a ring and bring it with him. There are several people I want to wave it in front of - <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> We had a little ......er...... "discussion" about all his stuff. A lot of it is HER stuff......... We compromised......... **I** don't want any of it..........he agreed we can give anything that was in her house to those who lost everything in the hurricane! WAHOO! Talk about using a set of circumstances for GOOD. To all my other MB friends; Thanks for your expressions of happiness. I truly am happy beyond belief, and amazed at how God has worked all the circumstances out to bring this about. It is beyond my comprehension. WAT - yo! Still waiting to see that you've read this post. Since you wrote and asked how things are going. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> Take care, all. And always remember - The Harley system WORKS! Dr. Harley studied affairs and related phenomenon for years before declaring himself an "expert." HE DOES KNOW WHAT HE'S TALKING ABOUT!!! It would not have happened if I had NOT done what the Harleys recommend and worked on changing ME. I watched my own mother become devastated by the div. between her and my dad. She remained bitter and angry the rest of her life.....and died an extremely lonely, sad person. I DID NOT want that for myself. I'm so thankful this site exists. How I wish I could convince everyone to just TRUST that the Harleys know what they are talking about, and JUST DO IT their way. Of course, getting closer to God doesn't hurt, either! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Take care, friends. and God Bless,
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Bumpin' this up to the top till I hear from WAT. HEY WAT!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />
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soooooooooooooo coooooooooooool <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> wooooooooWWWWWWWW what a truely amazing turn of events....... I am mouth-opened and eyes buggin out. Pep
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I missed this... CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Hi lupolady,
I have followed your story for some time now.
BUT,do you think maybe it is a bit soon to be already engaged again to your exWH? I want to be happy for you but when I read your post,I was more worried.The OW died only back in March and now you are back with your exWH and engaged? I keep rereading this to be sure what I am feeling isn't just a knee jerk reaction.I still feel the same however.
What happened to waiting a while? Did you ever fix the problems in your marriage beforehand? Would your ex still be with the OW if she didn't die?
Sorry to be a downer here but I am just wondering yuour thoughts on this.
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I love this story. I just.... love it. Congratulations, Lupolady. Just your sig line is enough information for one heck of a novel.
<small>[ August 30, 2004, 07:00 PM: Message edited by: Just J ]</small>
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I replied on the Recovery post.
I'm speechless!
I'm introspecting!
I'm impressed!
I'm glad there's no men's synchronized swimming!
You have my utmost respect. I've never known a brain transplant surgeon, but you must have found a good one.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Octobergirl: <strong> The OW died only back in March and now you are back with your exWH and engaged? What happened to waiting a while? Did you ever fix the problems in your marriage beforehand? Would your ex still be with the OW if she didn't die? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oct. I appreciate your concerns. Let me answer some of your ???'s. First of all, yes, ow just died in March. I also, had some concerns that xH was coming around only as a rebound. Originally, he probably was........but I watched, talked to him, listened, prayed, etc. I can see growth. I can see a changed man. I can tell he's truly remorseful.......it's in everything he says to me and does. Both toward me, our friends, and his own family (who were totally in favor of his A). He has essentially distanced himself from those family members who continue to have this attitude. I believe ow's death was a wake-up call for him. A major fog-lifting wake-up call. A " come to Jesus, in your face, get yourself straightened out life-changing event. He attends church (when with me or not), prays, asks God for direction/guidance. What more could a woman want from a man? We were separated 3 years, div'd 2 years. In that time, I have worked on myself.....I have fixed those things that made me the kind of W that he wanted to RUN from. He had spent 3 yrs. being a different kind of "partner." Doing the kind of things for HER that he now sees he should have been doing for ME all these years ( his words). WHAT should I "wait" for? I always knew if he came around, agreed not to see OW anymore, I would give him "another chance." I had NO idea NC w/OW would come about b/c of her demise..... But I have prayed, I have believed God would intervene and send him home and we would reconcile one day. It has happened. It has happened even better than I ever expected. He's a changed man. A man who is trying to follow God and live his life in accordance with GOD's principles. Exactly as I had prayed for. What more would I want to see? Do I believe he'd still be w/ow if she had not died? Yes, I do. Doesn't that give me cause for concern? No. Why not? Because God has ordained all of this. And if her death is what it took to WAKE HIM UP, lift him OUT of the fog, so be it. God's ordained will must have included ow dying, and H being shaken to his core in order to come back to the Lord, and see that he (and I, either, for that matter), were NOT living our lives to honor Him. We will now. We have agreed to do that. I hope this answers some of your concerns. I'm glad you asked, and I appreciate your looking out for me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> WAT!! Ya found me. YOU wrote: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I've never known a brain transplant surgeon, but you must have found a good one.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes, I have. His name is Jesus. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Actually, He's a heart transplant surgeon. My H's heart has changed. And so has mine. We both know it. We both feel it. And we both know this is what God had in mind when he allowed our "old" M to DIE. It had been dying a slow, painful death for a long time anyway. Now, like the phoenix rising out of the ashes, we will raise up a newer, better, more alive M. One that will honor HIM, and not seek to put ourselves first, or get upset when one or the other does something we each percieve as selfish. THIS is my opinion of what the Harleys seek to help couples find. This is the ultimate "test" of commitment and unconditional love. It is my story. Nothing can convince me that it isn't exactly what God had planned to have happen for me (and H) all along once we strayed from His love. Thanks for all your comments, friends. God Bless,
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Wow, what a story. Gee, there is hope for all of us. Congratulations, lupo.
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O Lupo...
God makes ALL things for GOOD.
I am happy for you.
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings lupolady.I appreciate your candor.I sincerely hope for the best outcome for you and your ex.Let us know how things progress.
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