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So I may have goofed this morning. I couldn't sleep last night and woke up thinking about my H doing things he used to do with me with this supposive girlfriend he has now...yuck (yep he now is a serial cheater). This motivated me to try to figure out his new e-mail password to see who this girl actually is so I can try to break the contact...my attempts to figure out his password failed and now his account is locked for 12 hours <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> . I don't think he'll suspect me rather that the server may be down or something. Plus, he is at work and has another e-mail account there.
Some advice from former WS motivated me to try to expose the affair...just not sure what the best approach is. I don't want to get myself more emotionally devastated than I already am but I have to admit I am a bit curious to see what is so special about this new flame of his. I actually think he is just actively pursuing any woman to try to drive me further away so he doesn't have to deal with the real issues in front of him. Any thoughts on exposure? After it is definitely exposed, what next?
Thanks!
Me: 28 yo faithful wife of 3 years and best friend/lover for 5 years
Him: 30 yo unfaithful H who seemingly is having an early midlife breakdown! Had affair fall '03-Jan '04; dropped bomb in May '04 and immediately left me (not giving me a chance to respond). Signed new year long lease in apt and admits to dating a new woman (which could be a lie to try to drive me away).
NO KIDS!
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On a side note, my H only moved about a 1/2 mile down the street from me so inevitably we are bound to bump into each other at some point in time. I keep playing in my mind what is the best way to confront him if he is with her....should I introduce myself as his wife to her and just say hi, how you doing to him? Thought?
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Perhaps I'll just let it die a natural death and go back to ignoring him and focusing on my life. He seemed to respond to me more when I don't initiate contact even if it was just via e-mail. It is just hard to do! Help!
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