My son is only three weeks old and my WH has visitation in my home only for 8 hours a week. I found out yesterday that he took him to meet the OW. I went crazy about it. I am so tired of being hurt. He doesn't see the big deal. Any advice on coping and accepting this. I have never been so angry in my life.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by durham76:
<strong> My son is only three weeks old and my WH has visitation in my home only for 8 hours a week. I found out yesterday that he took him to meet the OW. I went crazy about it. I am so tired of being hurt. He doesn't see the big deal. Any advice on coping and accepting this. I have never been so angry in my life. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">OMG.....*shudders* i would go nuts to....I am trying to AVOID that same thing......he needs to know that it wasn't at all appropriate for that...poor baby has enough stress...and baby's do feel moms stress and he just added more.....I would dicuss this with him but calmly and respectfully...I know it hurts I felt the same way when WH was trying to push his OW on my son....but control your emotions...simply state that she cannot have a place right now in DS life....there is a BIG adjustment for him and he needs to be settled first and you need time to heal before he tries to add another person into the mix....and it WILL take time.....then when/ if he's still with her...and she is at all to meet DS....it needs to be on your terms....you can meet somewhere and he and she can be alone with DS but not out of your sight incase DS panics about the stranger you are near and he can see you....Now these are guidlines I got from a child pshycologist about entering your H OW into your childs life....the other thing is when OW & WH are around your child....there is NO petting, hugging, kissing, ETC. because this can traumatize a child and confuse them.....but he needs to know it WILL take a long time for this to happen......it's not overnight...hope this helps some....*hugs*

Call your lawyer.

If he can't do anything, then don't let WH take your baby out of your home.

I'm so sorry Durham, I could commit serious bodily harm to you WH right now.

I am so incredibly sorry.

This was my worst fear when I had my DD. Her Dad never put me or DD through that though. I would have gone ballistic, and I think he knew it. But he also agreed it wasn't good for anyone to take her around OW.

Find out what you options are.

Why is he taking the baby out of the house, when he is suppposed to have visitation in your home 8 hours a week???

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> my WH has visitation in my home only for 8 hours a week </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That is downright disrespectful! Call your lawyer! Dont let him take that baby out of your site!

Durham,

I will make this suggestion but you need to weigh the options. If it were me, I'd call the police to report that a WS has taken my 3 wk child to visit 'other women'. Make it plural and tell them you are not sure how many or how long.....since he has been acting strangely, ask what options do you have. They may request you file a restraining order and require me have supervised visits.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> arrrrgh..... This orchid went from mellow megenta to full blown red. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

L.