I know this is sort of off topic, but the infidelity is the catalyst for our job search. I have been actively looking for a new job for my FWH. I am blessed to be a stay-at-home mom, but do freelance work so I can move anywhere (just will have to find a new client base or possibly a job).

We need to relocate as a result of his A. I feel that very deeply in my soul (and he knows this too.) He is still in withdrawal. I know it won't get any better until he can have COMPLETE NC. We both know that we have to leave this area. OW is several years older than both of us and works with him. Not sure of her actual age. (Just an interesting fact I thought I would add. It seems others have younger OWs. It started out PA then turned EA. This is a W that for years he disliked greatly. - interesting huh? He doesn't understand it either.)

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I've been posting resumes right and left. To no avail. He is very talented in his field, but no calls so far. I guess I just haven't found the right place. I've been posting mainly on recruiter sites. I have sent to some specific jobs.

I guess I was wondering if anyone else is having a hard time finding jobs. It is sad really, we had just really settled into staying here after years of considering relocation. But I know that God works in mysterious ways. Maybe there is some reason we are supposed to live somewhere else. And again, we once wanted to move before.

Anyway, just a little down today because I have spent a lot of time searching and can't seem to find anything. I also know it may take awhile. I guess I'm not very patient. I just have problem sending him off in the morning knowing that he will see/talk to her. Even though I know that he is doing everything to restore our marriage it still worries me. It is like taking an alcoholic to a bar and putting a bottle of Jack Daniels right in front of him. ohhhh....it makes me so sad/mad/worried. OHHH! Why does everything have to be so complicated? @(#*%$*%, this Internet job search is like searching for a needle in a haystack. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Thanks for any advice. And thanks for listening. Maybe that is all I really need is company for my misery. It helps me to share my thoughts.

<small>[ September 16, 2004, 09:05 AM: Message edited by: naivegirl ]</small>

Net working is how I have gotten every job that I have ever had. Over 50% of jobs out there aren't posted. Can your H openly talk about his search for a new job? If so, he should be contacting as many colleagues in his field as possible and letting them know he is looking and asking if they have any leads.

Believe it or not, I got my (kick-a$$) job that I currently have from posting my resume on Monster.com WHILE SITTING IN MY PJs!!!! It was Providence, really.

Good luck to you and your dwh! (((hugs ng)))

Thanks for the support. I really needed it today.

NG - how bout that. Our initials are the same. Hugs right back at ya, NG. If you don't mind my asking what type of field are you in? I wish I could find my H a "kick !@# job". I have his resume on Monster, CareerBuilder, etc.

Have a great night. We are both tired and gonna get some sleep.