Hey Ark^^!!!
Thank you!
We are doing really good. Finally we are both in the same river, at the same boat and paddling in the same direction... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> sounds familiar? And yes, a wack each way once in a while has been in order LOL!.
I know we are far from recovered, and we had some bumps, but those mostly regarding our characters (old behaviors) mixed with the new changes... So I can guess we are knowing each other again. Regarding me, it might sound strange, but it seemed that I didn't knew my H at all! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> .in his chore, he is the same old good hearted man I felt in love with, but well he has changed a lot too, and he is VERY picky... I didn't knew that, so we are trying to live with that, btw I'm not picky at all, I'm a mess heheh.
We still have our issues, of course, but we are working on them as they come. Last week I was just going to do a vent post, because of financial issues again, and the way he spends and all, sounds familiar again? hehe, well he asked for my help, and I agreeed to do a plan. A plan I was not 100% confortable with, since it involved giving me 80% of his money for me to manage, and pay debts. Like always I didn['t wanted to control it, but if we didn't do a thing, things would get out of control again, so he talked, and I asked, and he have not done a thing regarding that.
This one account, I had no accessto, since have I told you he left his old job with OW, and got a new one? just for me? WOHOOOOOOOO incredible huh?
Anyway he new job opened him a special account for it, where they don't charge fees for many things, but for that kind of accounts he has to be the sole owner. My current job did the same to me in the same bank btw.
So All I needed was him giving me his card number. internet access, and to afiliate my account to his. It was all talk for a week, and finally he gave it with a deposit for me to take care of the bills. So we finally managed that. I don't know still what was up with him, he can run HUGE bussiness and not home LOL. But that is the way it has been since we M, and he has always told me all he got, he got because of me (a saver maniac) in his eyes, cause I don't think I'm that, but I got a better learning than him on that aspect, and now he accepts that and he doesn't even fight it, wich is good...
Gosh I'm really rambling, but in the end, we are doing good, I think I'm going to quit my job by the 30th and look for a new one, got a yelling disrespectful boss, and I think I had enough pain last year to substain more for a job. God will lead me on what to do after that.
I didn't knew you were the "bad guy" in your M, and I think that Mr. Ark^^ is a really wise and lucky guy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> .
Thank you for posting to my bro, I hope he gets the same help here as I did, even if in his M there was not an A, but I have explained to him, A is just a consequence, as much as any other for falling out of love from some one. I hope he gets the clue, and can fix him, his M and his life.
Take care!
