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Hello. I am hoping there might be a fellow Bay Area person who can help point me to a GOOD counselor in San Jose. I need some serious direction as I can't even ask myself the right quesitons anymore. I am very stuck and my brain does not think logically anymore.
Briefly: My ex has been asking me to work on reconcilliation after a 4 year separation and final divorce. He was the wayward spouse and I am completely shut down to him. I don't trust him and find that I even find reasons not to believe his intentions and to convince him that what he feels for me is not love, but remorse and guilt that he is trying to appease.
I can't answer the simple question, "Do I love him". I try to say no and I cry. I try to say yes and it feels like a lie. He told me last night that if I just tell him I don't love him that he will go away and leave me alone. I feel that I am simply avoiding further pain because while I want to be hundreds of miles away from him, I cannot say these words to him.
We have 2 boys, 13 and 8 and I don't want to put them through any more turmoil by attempting and failing to reconcile.
I appreciate any and all counselor names. Thank you, Sincerely.
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i am not in your area nor do i have any specific names, only a resource for you. don't know where your faith is but if you are interested in a Christian counselor you can go to family.org it is a website by Dr. James Dobson and they have a section to request information for a counselor in your area. Best of luck and God Bless, RR
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I'm not really familiar with the Bay Area, but my H's first therapist is in Redwood City. When his dad began an A, H recommended her to them. http://www.vizia.com/vtraylor/index.html In talking with MIL, it seems she supported the basic MB philosophy. At least she didn't tell MIL to dump FIL like mine did. <small>[ September 20, 2004, 12:23 PM: Message edited by: lbc ]</small>
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LL,
I used to live in San Jose, CA. Just moved out of the area. But there are several MBers in that area.
If you will send me an e-mail, I will try to get the info for you.
I am sorry for your on-going pain. Why is your XH trying soo hard to reconcile?
take care,
L.
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