It seems like many people don't know who the OW or the OM are. In my case I have known the OW for years, plus, she and her H was a client of mine. (Her ex-husband is still a client)

I always had this gut feeling about her; even seven or eight years ago that she was trying to get into our family. I saw her trying to get close to my in-laws, she loved their lifestyle, she was trying to be the daughter they never had. Even though they had two DIL. I remember saying something to my WH seven years ago that she is trying to be apart of this family. I never knew she would be so malipulative and scheming to get my WH as part of her plan.

As soon as he told me he was having an A, I knew at that moment, who she was. All my instincts were right about her. I wish I trusted my feelings, I just never dreamed a married woman would go after a married man. Boy, my eyes have opened.

I'm so thankful my in-laws now see her for exactly who she is...she kept telling them lies and eventually she got caught and my in-laws can't stand her.

Anyhow how many knew the OP before your WS became involved with them.

No, I didn't know her. She worked for FWS. I did meet her once, though, before the A began.

She and her H attended our wedding.

She was not a friend of mine.

She was married (still is I think) to my H's friend.

Pep

Hopelessly, I new the "B" 4 yrs before the A began. The A lasted about 8 or 9 months. She was my H's office manager. He has a very small business and they were almost always alone at the end of the day. They rarely had to sneak unless he took her to dinner. He thought that was legit because she was the office m. Yeh, going out with OW at 8 pm is a business meeting, especially when you're with her all day!

I am totally not a jealous person. It's strange because when he hired her I said, "Now should I be worrying about her?" Maybe because she was the youngest OM that he had ever employed. I had some red flags I guess you could say. H told me early on that she was intimidated by me, probably because I'm the boss' wife. If you knew me you would realize what a crock that is. I am not pretentious, plus I am really nice. I am! Then he told me once that she told him she gets along much better with men than women. H also told me that she likes to flirt with men. About a year before the A she began calling H at home on the weekends just to chat. I remember talking to him about how strange that was, that it seemed like boundery crossing to me. He agreed and was actually annoyed by her calls. Finally she began actively pursuing him, which of course I didn't know until after d-day. She would blow him kisses at work and wink at him. I think she would call him and e-mailed him at 1st. She began to tell him about her M troubles. H just told me she was worried about not having sex. Finally wrote him a letter and asked him to go to the park with her and hand delivered the letter to him. That was the beginning of the EA. He was very torn, didn't want it to turn PA, but she told him she'd be there when he wanted sex.

Yes, a wonderful person. My boys worked at H's business every summer, so last summer she enjoyed many meals with them. I used to call and was very friendly to her. So that's my wonderful story! CV

I was aquainted with her. I taught her class once and I was around her class a few times. She stuck out to me because she never wanted to do anything I told her to.

I had known my OW from my childhhod. We had been best friends. On Dday that had spanned 30 years of "friendship". I knew she was a bit flirtatious, but had known her so long that to me that was jus her and who she was.

In my wildest dreams I would never have suspected that she would have been a party to what occured. Although after the fact I could see so much of what I had missed. I guess i just thought that she was a loyal friend and would have never done this to me.
C&S

Thinking back and all the nice things I have done for the OW makes me sick. Last Christmas, I bought her and H a beautiful floral Christmas Centerpiece and all the time she is sleeping with my WH. After I found out about the A, I mention that to my WH, he told me I did those things because I'm such a wonderful and giving person. I didn't feel so wonderful, I felt like a stupid fool. I was so hard on myself for being so nice to her especially since my instincts told me not to trust her.

What bother me the most, is how she could look me in the eye while she was sleeping with my WH. A woman without a conscience.

At least I can live with myself and the choices I have made in my life. I keep telling myself that she will have to deal with God someday, and he is the almighty.

I didn't know OM,don't care to neither.
WW met on the internet then intially met for coffee then it went on from there for 6mo.
Sad part is my kids had already met him before DD. He was in my home for 4 day holiday weekend while i was out of town, still burns when i think about it.
jets

Ha! CV55, this is a classic. My former best friend is also one who has a "problem" getting along with women... Wonder if it could have something to do with her be the OW in so many MM's lives??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Kati

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Met OP once and found out about A soon after. I wasn't impressed with him before I knew or after.

I did not know the homewrecker at all when the adultery came to light.She was just some worker at another company that got together after hours with my WH and others.My WH only knew the person about a month when he got invovled and it was about 2 months until I found out about it.

So,my WH gave up everything he used to hold dear for someone he knew only weeks.Real nice.

I hope that the homewrecker never crosses my path for her sake.That's all I can say.

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I don't know the OW. H says they met at a bar but I think he met her at work. Who cares now...the damage is done!